Article #3: Behavior Modification
Parents often ask me, "What is Behavior Modification? Aren’t those just fancy words for bribing kids in order to control them?"
All adults who deal with children develop strategies to shape their behavior. Children need basic tools of language, learning, emotional maturity and self-control to function effectively with others. The principles of Behavior Modification describe a formalized method that observes behavior and seeks to shape it in positive ways. The purposes of Behavior Modification in the education of children are NOT brainwashing, bribery or mind control. Quite the contrary. The purposes are to encourage children to experience the consequences of their actions in order to increase independence and self-discipline.
Consider the following guiding principles of Behavior Modification as applied to helping a child become more successful in school.
The child who is unable to work independently makes frequent requests for repetition of instructions, copies the work of classmates, repeatedly expresses self-doubt despite reassurances, and clings to adults under stress. Such a highly dependent child often feels powerless and inferior.
We know that behavior that is rewarded or affirmed (reinforcement) tends to be repeated, and that behavior not so acknowledged tends to diminish or disappear (extinction). Selection of rewards, or reinforcers as they are called technically, is critical because what’s reinforcing for one child may not be reinforcing for another. Parents and teachers often ignore desired behavior (because they expect it) and respond to or draw attention to undesired behavior (because they want to change it.) In so doing, they often inadvertently reinforce undesired behaviors. Instead, adults should try to ignore (to extinguish) undesired behavior and reinforce (to increase) desired behavior when it occurs. Child behaviors that are dangerous to self or others should not be ignored under any circumstances.
Communication is an important part of the process. Children need to know what is expected of them, with clear understanding of behavioral limits. This leads naturally to a discussion of punishment. Punishment may stop undesired behavior or teach avoidance behavior, but is less effective than positive reinforcement as an adjunct to attaining desired behavioral change. Positive reinforcement may take the form of a reward, such as a treat or a special privilege; but an immediate pat on the back or other acknowledgment can be equally powerful.
In setting expectations, make them realistic and achievable. Minimize reactions to mistakes (to extinguish them). When children encounter failure, show them how to correct it and move on, being quick to praise positive results. Practice makes perfect only when the practice is correct. Practicing errors only makes them stronger. When the whole task seems insurmountable, break it down into smaller, more manageable parts. In the classroom, for example, develop an agenda every morning, so children know what’s expected and can manage their time accordingly. At home, daily routines are extremely helpful and can lead to lifelong habits of emotional well-being and productivity.
Application of BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION techniques to extinguish negative (aggressive or destructive) behaviors can help remove harsh value judgments against a child that can make a child feel rejected as a person rather than someone whose behavior is unacceptable. Teaching and reinforcement of positive behaviors can gradually help children become more confident, self-disciplined, self-reliant and comfortable with adult expectations.
LINKS:
BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION: Common Sense Behavior Modification:
http://www2.itexas.net/~BillPen/Child04.htm
