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Re: Toddlers don't respond well to reason
Posted by Elyse on 6/10/08

You know - I think I see both sides of the issue.

For one, I see nothing wrong with consistency in a sense. For
example, making sure a child understands expectations, is given
the tools to reach those expectations, and what to expect if
the rules are broken. This can be applied with knowing that
you always have to have a "No-Thank You Helping" which means
taking a small bite of something new - that way the child can
decide for themselves if they like it. It can also be good to
know that at 8 it is time for bed and that if you make a mess
you should clean it up and ask for help if you need it.

However - I don't think that you should have to plan every
moment of every day. Who lives like that anyway? Unexpected
things happen sometimes and we want our kids to learn how to be
flexible. General time periods are nice, because then kids
know what to expect, plus you know what to expect.

I see nothing wrong with time out as long as the child knows
that it is meant to think about what they did. I always keep
the time out age appropriate and in an open space so the child
doesn't feel scared. Then afterwards we talk about why it is a
good idea not to do it again. Obviously, not all age groups
will understand sympathy towards others - but it is a good
thing to teach.

Now - do I believe that these families become fixed in the week
that is allotted? HAHAHA No Way! Changing habits takes TIME
and there isn't a quick fix.

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• Toddlers don't respond well to reason, 6/02/08, by Donna music/TN.
• Re: Toddlers don't respond well to reason, 6/08/08, by Retired educator.
• Re: Toddlers don't respond well to reason, 6/10/08, by Elyse.
• Is Mr. Kohn serious or is this a sarcastic joke?, 7/01/08, by shana.
• Alfie Kohn, 7/31/08, by Jala.
• Defensive, 8/28/08, by Tricia.
• My Experience with toddlers, 8/29/08, by David.
• Couldn't agree w/ Mr. Kohn more if I tried!, 9/04/08, by Teresa.
• It would be great if reasoning alone was enough, but..., 10/21/09, by Mila.