This is an excellent article about a matter of considerable
concern to me.
We have all observed schools and classes where it is
pleasant to visit and stay, and others where it is not so
pleasant. I think that to a large measure, the extent to
which people, including staff and students, behave civilly
to each other creates the difference in the atmosphere of
those places.
I am very glad that this program does not stop with just
examples and admonitions, but actually goes on to suggest
some rules. Simply defining civility, or etiquette, or
positive role modeling to students, then saying "do that"
will not work.
In my opinion, etiquette is at the heart of civility. I
don't mean the simple "What spoon do you use?" etiquette of
cotillions and debutante balls, but the ordinary manners we
used with each other in ordinary situations. These rules
are not simply, "make the other person feel comfortable."
Since we are not mind readers, it is almost impossible to
figure out what will make other persons comfortable, and in
some situations, making a person comfortable is the last
thing you need to do: bigots and bullies should not be
comfortable in their intolerance and intimidation.
Jim Wayne