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Re: if you leave of your own volition it would look better d
Posted by Confused on 10/28/09

    On 10/28/09, the road NFM wrote:
    > On 10/28/09, Confused wrote:
    >> On 10/23/09, OP wrote:
    >>> I wouldn't ask to be let out of your contract...to make a long
    >>> story short, it was only a stroke of luck that I did manage to
    >>> find so many even after being let go. Really, I only had to list
    >>> for the third job my horrible experience in Arizona because the
    >>> second one was a private school, and I was able to snow the guy
    >>> just enough to get on because he thought being an ESL teacher
    >>> where I visit classrooms would make me more successful. I prefer
    >>> not to dwell on it too much; the whole thing is kind of
    >>> depressing. I started this post for closure because I am
    >>> embarking on a career path (more of a "calling", if you will)
    >>> that can be equally as difficult in some respects, yet I reached
    >>> a point after much stubbornness that that is where I need to be.
    >>> These situations that people on this board find themselves in
    >>> are difficult; I can't offer much yet I can offer compassion,
    >>> empathy, and intercessory prayer on their behalf.
    >>>
    >> Well, I am only wanting to ask to be let out of my contract
    >> because the job is affecting my health due to being abused by the
    >> administrators and co-teacher. I have anxiety, depression, chest
    >> pains and heart palpitations. I get sick literally thinking about
    >> going back. I just don't feel up to the fight. I am just done!
    >> People feel as if I will be let go anyway, so I am trying to
    >> determine which is worst, me leaving for my health or being let
    >> go? I know that my health is much more important, so I will have
    >> to make that decision. Thanks for your responses.
    >>>
    >>> On 10/22/09, Confused wrote:
    >>>> On 10/19/09, Incognito wrote:
    >>>>> In 2007 I received a B.A. in elementary education from a
    >>>>> university in Colorado. I immediately began looking for
    >>>>> teaching jobs, both in-state and out-of-state, and landed
    >>>>> one at a school district in Arizona. To make a long story
    >>>>> short, I did not even last until Christmas. I was placed
    >>>>> in a 6th grade classroom with 35 students that even the
    >>>>> most experienced teacher would have some trouble with. I
    >>>>> made a lot of mistakes and came across as "playing
    >>>>> favorites" which got me in serious hot water with many of
    >>>>> the parents (one who even called me every name in the book
    >>>>> that she could think of during a conference) The stress
    >>>>> literally almost killed me. I was having suicidal thoughts
    >>>>> and almost developed a drinking problem. My marriage
    >>>>> suffered badly, and the people renting my house back home
    >>>>> almost wrecked it because they were remodeling it without
    >>>>> my permission. Well, to make a long story short, they
    >>>>> asked me to resign by Christmas and I did. I didn't give
    >>>>> up (yet) and began looking again, finding a job two weeks
    >>>>> later at a private school in a large city in the colder
    >>>>> eastern U.S. I thought things would go better in this
    >>>>> situation, but they did not. I only had 13 students but
    >>>>> the class was FULL of BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS and I only made it
    >>>>> a month there. When I got there, I was all gung-ho and was
    >>>>> getting ready to go the local grocery store to buy some
    >>>>> school supplies and promptly got into an accident that
    >>>>> disabled my car...so here I am, a thousand miles away from
    >>>>> home, no car, no wife or family, and a class full of
    >>>>> behavior problems. I was out of teaching again that year
    >>>>> by February. I STILL did not give up. I waited until March
    >>>>> and began applying to different districts in my home state
    >>>>> of Colorado once more. I landed a job in as an ESL teacher
    >>>>> in a district in a mountainous part of Colorado. I THOUGHT
    >>>>> that finally, I had found a job where I would be suitable
    >>>>> for, and it kind of was. There were some positives to this
    >>>>> experience, no question. One particular girl said her
    >>>>> FIRST WORDS of english to me and I still, to this day, get
    >>>>> a kick out of that. However, I was an outsider in this
    >>>>> community and was continually (for the first time in my
    >>>>> life) harrassed by law enforcement. Every thing that could
    >>>>> have went wrong, went wrong. Last November things came to
    >>>>> a head when I was arrested for domestic violence. My wife
    >>>>> and I were living in a little holiday rambler trailer and
    >>>>> I hit a little plywood table in frustration and it fell
    >>>>> off its hinges and collapsed. I have LEANED on that table
    >>>>> and have broke it. I was labeled a batterer and ALMOST
    >>>>> lost my teaching job once again. I made the mistake of
    >>>>> telling the police man that I was going to kill myself and
    >>>>> was prompting placed in a suicide smock and kept to myself
    >>>>> at the jail. However, a funny thing happened when I was in
    >>>>> that jail cell. I realized that teaching was probably not
    >>>>> for me. I've always been a spiritual person, so the first
    >>>>> time in quite a while I started praying. I remembered how
    >>>>> when I was sixteen I felt "called" to become a Christian
    >>>>> minister, and so I basically bargained with God. I told
    >>>>> God in my prayer: "All right God, if you get me out of
    >>>>> this and get me my job back I promise you I will take
    >>>>> steps to become a pastor. Just get my job back. And Lord,
    >>>>> if you want me to be a pastor, you've got to work on me, I
    >>>>> have a lot of baggage and I'm no where near ready." (I was
    >>>>> drunk when I prayed this, btw) To make a long story short,
    >>>>> I did eventually get a deferred judgment and was able to
    >>>>> continue at my job. I did not finish the year; I only made
    >>>>> it to March. However, the more I studied becoming a
    >>>>> pastor, the less interested I was in being a teacher and
    >>>>> by March I had already decided that I would not look for
    >>>>> another teaching job at the end of the year. I was
    >>>>> accepted into a nationally-recognized online bible college
    >>>>> and seminary in May and let me tell you, I have enjoyed my
    >>>>> classes ten times as much as I did my education classes! I
    >>>>> guess the moral to my story is that having everything
    >>>>> possible go wrong with me in education these past three
    >>>>> years that maybe, possibly it wasn't meant for me to be a
    >>>>> teacher, at least at the elementary or secondary level.
    >>>>> Examine your motives and whether you are really meant to
    >>>>> be a teacher. If you are and "you know that you know" then
    >>>>> be patient, you will find something. Otherwise, it would
    >>>>> be just like me attempting to fit a square board into a
    >>>>> round peg. As for me, I am going to continue being a
    >>>>> prayer warrior, serve others, and studying my Bible to be
    >>>>> the best pastor possible in the future! Thanks for letting
    >>>>> me get this off my chest.
    >>>>
    >>>> How in the world did you manage to get so many teaching jobs
    >>>> after being let go from different schools! Wow, that is
    >>>> interesting. Whom did you use for references?(lol), Just
    >>>> wondering because I am thiking about asking to be let out of
    >>>> my contract.

    I agree that if I leave on my own, it will look better down the road.
    Which is why I got up the nerve to call HR Director who was very nice
    and understanding. He told me that he would release me out of my
    contract and that I am welcome to apply next school year if I wanted
    to come back! I said to myself that maybe there are some decent people
    in this county. I am a little nervous about talking to my principal
    and dept chair because I feel as if I am bailing out, however no one
    cares about me, so I have to look out for myself for a change. Thanks
    for the advice everyone. I really do think this is for the best. I am
    nervous about my future but I am convinced that the job was toxic for
    me and my health!

     
     

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