Is there any way to observe to see what is really going on?
Without him realizing you are there? I think the way it is
being dealt with is foolish on the centers parts. I give
rewards sometimes, not often, but sometimes. When I do...
they are VERY immediate. I may have something in my
pocket... and those who sat "queitly" through the story will
get a sticker or such. But queitly is a relative term. One,
the activity has to be interesting enough to gain their
attention. Two, an effort at quiet for one child can be very
different than for another. I have a little girl who seldoms
speaks, of course she is quiet. Then I have some boys who
want to run and shout... if they are sitting and putting
effort into it... that counts. It depends on the child. And
often the gender. Boys seldom are quiet it seems. Or
still. But you want to move them that direction.

Is he being disruptive, or interested? I have kids that
learn LOUDLY. I am all for active learning. Not active
disruption though. There is a difference. There needs to be
rules and boundaries, but they need to fit the age. And if
the child is unable to fit within that, you need to figure
out why.

I worked with a little boy once. He was a terror at
daycare. His parents asked me to watch him at home. I
actually quit my job to do so. Cause he just could not
handle the activity at daycare. He did wonderful in a home
setting with a small group of children. He is a gifted 3rd
grader now ... I am very proud of him. But boy was he a
disruption at the daycare when he was two. Some kids cannot
handle the large group. And that might be the root of his
sadness and his behavior. Although personally, the
expectations seem way beyond reasonable. But unless you
observe, it would be really hard to know what is going on.

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