Re: My child is a nightmare at school

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I feel for you, I know how hard it must be to get calls,
notes, etc from the teacher or school about your child
and/or his behavior.Perhaps you could speak to the teacher
about your concerns and perhaps suggest ways in which he or
she can positively bond with your child. It could be the
management or discipline strategy being employed also...what
are your thoughts on discipline and management strategies
for teachers? I know that as long as the teacher is
receptive to a parent who wants to be active in their
child's education (through the good and the bad) you can
work out a compromise that not only helps your child but
also you and the teacher. I like the ideas of incentive
charts (used at home and at school), behavioral ocntracts
with short term, attainable goals 9€perhaps making a goal to
make it through one activity with no disruptions, acting
out, biting, hitting, etc.) and break the day down into
activities.

I am on the opposite end of this scenario actually. I teach
at an early learning center and I have one child who is very
bright but is a constant challenge. He is disruptive,
impulsive, manipulative, deceitful and thinks discipline is
a joke. He laughs at me or is untruthful if I try to
discipline him (I use a check mark system for consequences
with time out for more serious offenses). He is an
instigator for the other children to misbehave as well. I
havce had many days where I have had to send a negative note
home or make a phone call. The worst part is the lack of
support from his parents - I feel that I can do nothing
right when it comes to their child. They berate my methods,
belittle my teaching style and have really had nothing
positive to say about anything that I've done with their
child or the class since I started working there. I am at my
witt's end with them..and the child. They have made me come
home crying most days and I actually began searching for
another job because of them (there are other reasons too
however).

I have taken another position, substituting in a public
school district in the hopes that I can find a job in a
higher grade level or something that will help to renew my
faith in my abilities as a teacher. I am very sure that
situations such as these may make anyone doubt their
abilities as a teacher, parent etc. Can any one offer some
words of wisdom or encouragement? They would be much
appreciated.

On 12/01/08, rk wrote:
> Can anyone help? I am at my wit's end. My son is 22
months
> old and goes to a daycare/preschool center. He has been
> there almost a year and did great until about a month ago.
> We never had any problems, except that he got bit several
times.
>
> Now, he bites, hits, tells the teachers "no!", runs out of
> time out, etc. He does this to kids and to teachers.
Every
> day I get a bad report. The daycare is very understanding
> and supportive. Today I had tears in my eyes as I was
> leaving with him, and the director called to reassure me.
> They plan fun activities for the kids and have a good
routine.
>
> The kicker is, he doesn't do much of this at home or in
> situations with friends, at the park, or anything. He has
> started telling us "no", but is not violent and is usually
> agreeable. I don't know how to fix this if he does it when
> I'm not there.
>
> I suspect that he doesn't like/respect his teacher for
> whatever reason. This all started at the same time she
> came, but no matter what, this is still unacceptable. Does
> anyone have any insight or ideas for me? I made myself
sick
> tonight being so upset.

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