|
Re: A phrase I've heard and used, might work for you
Posted by marjoryt on 4/10/08
I heard this in a workshop for gifted students, who can be very
bad about "LISTEN TO ME RIGHT THIS MINUTE". The phrase: "Is this an earth stopping, about to start warfare, you're about
to explode" situation, or can we each think about it for 10
minutes? I'd really appreciate the 10 minutes to get the class
onto something else, and then have the time to personally listen
to your point of view. If you pressure me for an instant
response, it might not be a great answer." Obviously the 10 minutes is for the cool down (yours and
hopefully the student's). Next, it allows you to get the
audience (the class) into some other activity. Once you do that, then POLITELY request the student join you for
a "conference". You just pull them to one side of the room and do
this:
1. Thank the student for waiting - you really appreciate that.
2. Ask the student to explain his or her own point of view, and
that you promise to simply listen. Then, actually LISTEN. SAY
nothing.
3. At that point - tell the student you need to think for a
moment, and you really do need to do so. You should be looking
for the "win-win" situation, or at least 2 ways for the student
to handle (one being a disciplinary solution, and the other a
nondisciplinary solution that allows the student to act like an
adult). The more I work for the nondisciplinary situation, the
more positively my students respond.
4. Ask the student to listen for just a few moment, and then
he/she will have an opportunity to talk again.
- Restate what the student said (verifying that you did listen)
- Explain the school/classroom position and where the student
deviated
- Explain two solutions for the problem (disciplinary and
nondisciplinary)
- Ask the student to respond You are trying to get the student to calm down and think, and
provide non reactive responses.
Posts on this thread, including this one
- Disrespectful Students, 4/09/08, by Martina.
- Re: Disrespectful Students, 4/09/08, by Darren B..
- Re: Disrespectful Students, 4/10/08, by Steve .
- Re: Disrespectful Students, 4/10/08, by Darren B..
- Re: A phrase I've heard and used, might work for you, 4/10/08, by marjoryt.
- Re: A phrase I've heard and used, might work for you, 4/11/08, by Leah.
- Re: Disrespectful Students, 4/16/08, by d.mac.
- Re: Disrespectful Students, 4/23/08, by Martina.
- Re: Disrespectful Students, 4/23/08, by Martina.
- Re: Disrespectful Students [TOME], 4/23/08, by Tom.
- Re: Disrespectful Students [TOME], 4/23/08, by Martina.
- Re: Disrespectful Students, 4/23/08, by Waski_the_Squirrel.
- Re: Disrespectful Students - What Wasaki says..., 4/24/08, by ~connie.
- Re: Disrespectful Students , 4/24/08, by lynda.
- Re: Disrespectful Students , 4/29/08, by DarrenB.
- Re: Disrespectful Students, 5/02/08, by d.mac.
- Re: Disrespectful Students, 5/06/08, by jennifer.
| June: The 30 Days of Teachers.Net (Introduction) |
1
|
2
|
3
|
4
|
5
|
6
|
7
|
8
|
9
|
10
|
11
|
12
|
13
|
14
|
15
|
16
|
17
|
18
|
19
|
20
|
21
|
22
|
23
|
24
|
25
|
26
|
27
|
28
|
29
|
30
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
1996 - 2008. All Rights Reserved. Please review our