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Difficult Student

by kt

Oct 1, 2014

I was wondering if any of you had some advice for me with a student. They have officially been diagnosed ADHD & Developmentally Delayed. I am unsure if the child is spoiled or has other conditions that I should research.

Background- Last year he was allowed to go and help the janitors everyday for a little while because he would throw fits & disrupt the classroom. They used it as an incentive for him, but regardless of behavior he was allowed. There are academic struggles which is common for 1st grade. His assessments show he is in need of interventions for his reading. Math scores are not able to be determined because he was unable to take the test which is a timed computerized test. He attends a resource class once a day for 30 minutes.

Current year- we struggled the first few weeks of school because he wanted to go hang out & help the janitors. However I don't feel that is the right example for him to get to miss class. Kindergarten had more down time ...See MoreI was wondering if any of you had some advice for me with a student. They have officially been diagnosed ADHD & Developmentally Delayed. I am unsure if the child is spoiled or has other conditions that I should research.

Background- Last year he was allowed to go and help the janitors everyday for a little while because he would throw fits & disrupt the classroom. They used it as an incentive for him, but regardless of behavior he was allowed. There are academic struggles which is common for 1st grade. His assessments show he is in need of interventions for his reading. Math scores are not able to be determined because he was unable to take the test which is a timed computerized test. He attends a resource class once a day for 30 minutes.

Current year- we struggled the first few weeks of school because he wanted to go hang out & help the janitors. However I don't feel that is the right example for him to get to miss class. Kindergarten had more down time to allow for him to go do whatever. Instead I have set up a reward system where he gets to receive a prize on Fridays from the janitors(really me) if he has worked to control his actions & behavior.

Observations- He is a smart kid. He does struggle but if I ignore his moaning, crying, burst outs then he usually gets on his work & does a good job. He has increasingly thrown fits, kicked desks, moaned & cried to the point where the class can't concentrate. He has told the class he doesn't like me, hates me, doesn't like them when they tell me what he says. And then the next minute he is up giving me a hug. During our lessons I go ALL over it, everything I can think of to prepare him, and EVERY SINGLE TIME I give him a task he says he can't do it and flips out. I was concerned about it being anxiety over work etc, but then today we lined up from recess & he flipped out about wanting water before we even started walk to the bathrooms.

I have tried to remain calm & deal with him, but I am worried that he is going to make me crazy, drain me physically & emotionally. I have the firm but loving relationship with him as of now, but now he is defiant, telling me no, refusing to do things I ask him. I have talked to mom several times and I think she is talking to him, but she doesn't seem serious with him. Every morning she tells me she is sorry???

I would like any tips... I currently give one on one instructions, read alouds, pref. seating, support resources, buddy partner, behavior-work punch card to fill up & our in class incentives. I went to take him to principal and he flipped out begging me not to go. I don't know if it is anxiety, lack of independence, motivation, belief in himself, but his behavior is innaaprpriate and not fair to the other students when he can at least try to control it.

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Vet Teacher On 10/01/14, kt wrote: > I was wondering if any of you had some advice for me with a > student. They have officially been diagnosed ADHD & > Developmentally Delayed. I am unsure if the child is spoiled or > has other conditions that I should research.

Do you disagree with diagnoses he's been given? He certainly sounds ADHD ...See MoreOn 10/01/14, kt wrote: > I was wondering if any of you had some advice for me with a > student. They have officially been diagnosed ADHD & > Developmentally Delayed. I am unsure if the child is spoiled or > has other conditions that I should research.

Do you disagree with diagnoses he's been given? He certainly sounds ADHD from your description of him.

If he's ADHD there are no easy answers - it's trial and error. Every ADHD child is a challenge all its own and you have to try and find what's works for this child.

I agree that rewards can work but this seems like a very impaired child and a prize in Fridays is very delayed gratification. Has he even once been able to control his behavior for an entire week? > > I'm guessing he's not on meds but it sounds as if he should be. Why do you think his mother has a quick fix for him? This is a special ed. child and one with developmental delay along with his ADHD.

It sounds to me like what you're doing is working - he does his work after his fits- he's not hitting or fighting with other children, he gets angry with you but gets over it.

The good news is that what you're doing is working to a certain extent but the bad news is it's draining you.

I'd step up the reward. Can he eat his lunch with the janitors? I'd tel him if he can do the morning tasks without acting out then he can eat his lunch with the janitors. I'd tell him if he can do the afternoon tasks than he can spend his recess with the janitors.

> > Current year- we struggled the first few weeks of school > because he wanted to go hang out & help the janitors. > However I don't feel that is the right example for him to get to > miss class. Kindergarten had more down time to allow for him > to go do whatever. Instead I have set up a reward system > where he gets to receive a prize on Fridays from the > janitors(really me) if he has worked to control his actions & > behavior. > > Observations- He is a smart kid. He does struggle but if I > ignore his moaning, crying, burst outs then he usually gets on > his work & does a good job. He has increasingly thrown fits, > kicked desks, moaned & cried to the point where the class > can't concentrate. He has told the class he doesn't like me, > hates me, doesn't like them when they tell me what he says. > And then the next minute he is up giving me a hug. During > our lessons I go ALL over it, everything I can think of to > prepare him, and EVERY SINGLE TIME I give him a task he says > he can't do it and flips out. I was concerned about it being > anxiety over work etc, but then today we lined up from recess > & he flipped out about wanting water before we even started > walk to the bathrooms. > > I have tried to remain calm & deal with him, but I am worried > that he is going to make me crazy, drain me physically & > emotionally. I have the firm but loving relationship with him > as of now, but now he is defiant, telling me no, refusing to do > things I ask him. I have talked to mom several times and I > think she is talking to him, but she doesn't seem serious with > him. Every morning she tells me she is sorry??? > > I would like any tips... I currently give one on one instructions, > read alouds, pref. seating, support resources, buddy partner, > behavior-work punch card to fill up & our in class incentives. I > went to take him to principal and he flipped out begging me > not to go. I don't know if it is anxiety, lack of independence, > motivation, belief in himself, but his behavior is innaaprpriate > and not fair to the other students when he can at least try to > control it.

Oct 24, 2014

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Johnston On 10/01/14, kt wrote: > I was wondering if any of you had some advice for me with a > student. They have officially been diagnosed ADHD & > Developmentally Delayed. I am unsure if the child is spoiled or > has other conditions that I should research. > > Background- Last year he was allowed to go and help the > janitors ev...See MoreOn 10/01/14, kt wrote: > I was wondering if any of you had some advice for me with a > student. They have officially been diagnosed ADHD & > Developmentally Delayed. I am unsure if the child is spoiled or > has other conditions that I should research. > > Background- Last year he was allowed to go and help the > janitors everyday for a little while because he would throw fits > & disrupt the classroom. They used it as an incentive for him, > but regardless of behavior he was allowed. There are > academic struggles which is common for 1st grade. His > assessments show he is in need of interventions for his > reading. Math scores are not able to be determined because > he was unable to take the test which is a timed computerized > test. He attends a resource class once a day for 30 minutes. > > Current year- we struggled the first few weeks of school > because he wanted to go hang out & help the janitors. > However I don't feel that is the right example for him to get to > miss class. Kindergarten had more down time to allow for him > to go do whatever. Instead I have set up a reward system > where he gets to receive a prize on Fridays from the > janitors(really me) if he has worked to control his actions & > behavior. > > Observations- He is a smart kid. He does struggle but if I > ignore his moaning, crying, burst outs then he usually gets on > his work & does a good job. He has increasingly thrown fits, > kicked desks, moaned & cried to the point where the class > can't concentrate. He has told the class he doesn't like me, > hates me, doesn't like them when they tell me what he says. > And then the next minute he is up giving me a hug. During > our lessons I go ALL over it, everything I can think of to > prepare him, and EVERY SINGLE TIME I give him a task he says > he can't do it and flips out. I was concerned about it being > anxiety over work etc, but then today we lined up from recess > & he flipped out about wanting water before we even started > walk to the bathrooms. > > I have tried to remain calm & deal with him, but I am worried > that he is going to make me crazy, drain me physically & > emotionally. I have the firm but loving relationship with him > as of now, but now he is defiant, telling me no, refusing to do > things I ask him. I have talked to mom several times and I > think she is talking to him, but she doesn't seem serious with > him. Every morning she tells me she is sorry??? > > I would like any tips... I currently give one on one instructions, > read alouds, pref. seating, support resources, buddy partner, > behavior-work punch card to fill up & our in class incentives. I > went to take him to principal and he flipped out begging me > not to go. I don't know if it is anxiety, lack of independence, > motivation, belief in himself, but his behavior is innaaprpriate > and not fair to the other students when he can at least try to > control it.

Feb 7, 2015

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