Re: mistaken gender

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You have made an incredible number of assumptions about this
girl, her motivations (or lack thereof) for her particular style
of dress, how she thinks and feels, etc. It's rather shocking,
actually.

Relying on the "if they cared, they'd say something" idea doesn't
show a good grasp of how kids actually think, or why they
reveal (or conceal) certain things. Sure, maybe the girl
doesn't care. Or maybe she's been embarrassed and has no idea
how to say something, or if she even should.

Whether or not the teacher decides to address it, it's probably
best to do some deeper thinking about the situation and not
simply dismiss it with easy grabs and cliches.

>On 9/23/09, veteran teacher wrote:
>
> Let it go - if the student really cared, she would have
> spoken up about it...
>
> if a young woman really
> cared if we saw her as a young woman and not as a young man,
> she'd dress in a very feminine way.
>
> But she clearly doesn't dress in a way that shouts 'girl' at
> you and so she also likey doesn't really care if a teacher
> recognizes her gender...
>
> She might indeed want to look more like a young man than a young woman.
>
> To these kids, it's 'no biggie'.

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