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Ways to help control very impulsive behavior

by Judy

Oct 7, 2010

I am look for very tangible , practical ways to help young children with impulse control. I have several kindergarten and first grade boys who cannot control them selves which gets them in trouble in class( blurting out, inapporpriate language) and on playground being physical and aggressive. I truly believe it is an inability to stop and think first.

Any ideas on how to reinforce, remind, and visually encourage a child to "stop and think"

Thanks,

Judy

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Leah Kelly Bear teaches children to Stop, Think, Feel, and Act in a Kind Way. But, you don't have to use Kelly Bear to teach it to your students.

The motions are:

Stop - hands like a policeman telling cars to stop.

Think - both hands on head

Feel - hands on heart

Act - hand outstretched

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Oct 7, 2010

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Leah A better demonstration of STFA is found by clicking below and go in about 1.3 minutes

Oct 11, 2010

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vet counselor br> > Any ideas on how to reinforce, remind, and visually > encourage a child to "stop and think" > > Thanks, > > Judy

Role playing with such young ones can help. The blurting out make take a while... the bad language can be more quickly curtailed. Some children hear such language at home and have no idea that it's 'ba...See Morebr> > Any ideas on how to reinforce, remind, and visually > encourage a child to "stop and think" > > Thanks, > > Judy

Role playing with such young ones can help. The blurting out make take a while... the bad language can be more quickly curtailed. Some children hear such language at home and have no idea that it's 'bad' and those same children go home every night and hear it again. They need to hear and at school, there are 'home ways' and 'school ways' and sometimes they're the same and sometimes they're not. For example, we sleep at home but not at school. We wear pajamas at home but not at school. We watch tv at home but rarely at school. In the same way, there are expressions and words that might be used at home but are NOT used at school. And usually not used in public either because there are 'private ways' and 'public ways'. In private, we have our own ways but in public, we don't use 'bad words'. And school is public - does Teacher use bad words? No. Why? Because school is public and school ways and public ways mean 'no bad words'. Having explained that, then enforce it and on the playground especially but there's a rub. Many schools let their classroom teachers have breaks at playground time and put the kids in the hands of part-time aides who have NO training and low expectations. You won't teach children better ways if your classroom teachers aren't out on the playground too or at least someone has to be - someone higher up and who's really committed to the kids and the school. Chastising for the 'bad language' as in "Say that again and leave the bad words out, Tommy".

The impulse control takes longer too but there role-playing helps. Model it in a skit- these kids have NO idea there's another way to be other than pulsating, immediate emotional reaction. Teach them "Respond don't react" and show them the difference. Teach them how to resolve problems and how to discuss. All they know is to have an outburst, fight, and be angry - we're an increasingly angry society.

And have your teachers use the phrase especially when a child has angered or annoyed them. "Tommy, I'm upset but I'm going to respond and not react and ask you to sit down quietly until I'm not as upset as I am right now that you threw John's science project on the ground."

Make it a motto - Respond don't react. And help them to know they can not only survive but can prevail even if their every emotional whim is not immediately satisfied. We lives in time of immediate gratification - bored? Turn the channel with a flick of the button. The most valuable lesson we could teach in school is to deal with our feelings and learn that we can live through discomfort and work out ways to be be comfortable and live comfortably with each other.

Oct 13, 2010

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