The other posters had better advice. jmo
On 3/28/11, Sara wrote:
> With some kids even kids this young I've asked, "Does this
> work for you, John? Is it working for you? Does this make you
> happy John?" (long pause and usually John or Susie or
> whatever looks pretty surprised to be asked such questions)
> And then go on - "because it doesn't look like it's working
> for you to me. I've been teaching for a very long time and
> I've rarely seen a child that seems as unhappy as you are.
> I'm sorry to say it and ever sorrier to see it but you look
> like one of the unhappiest children I've ever seen.
> (still stunned to shock look on Johnny's face)
> It can't possibly be working for you. Almost none of the
> other students in our class like you. I like you but I cannot
> like what you're doing to yourself. You're making yourself
> miserable - you like to say it's what others have done that
> upsets you but what you do to yourself is what's really
> upsetting you. EVERYBODY HAS BIRTHDAYS and it can't be your
> birthday every day. Don't be silly - that's ridiculous. To
> run away and get mad because it's someone's birthday is
> ridiculous. There are 365 days in the year and you can't have
> been born on every one of them.
> Now - this is silly nonsense and I have no more patience for
> it. If you want to get mad and run away, please run into that
> corner over there and stay there. The other children and I
> will be having fun over here."
> Sometimes you have to lay out the harsh truth.