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Re: just back in town - my BIL died suddenly - age 32
Posted by VET on 7/08/08
I am so sorry, marjoryt. What a tragic loss of one so young!
You were the glue that held things together. Bless you. I
am sure your husband greatly appreciated all you did for the
family.
On 7/06/08, marjoryt wrote:
> Tuesday afternoon we got a hysterical phone call from my
> husband's sister - their brother was dead. We literally
> threw clothes in the van and drove halfway across the
> state, husband drove and I made phone calls the whole
> trip, letting people out of state know.
>
> Once there, it was a case of hurry up and wait - wait for
> the autopsy, wait for this, wait for that. My in-laws
> were simply exhausted and stressed out. My MIL is
> normally the organizer, and I'm her second in command for
> these events, but in this case I pretty much worked
> independently with whoever I could grab. Lots to be done -
> I'll have more next weekend too.
>
> BIL was 32. He had Graves disease, and in March 2007 he
> had a massive heart attack while in the hospital with
> pneumonia. After the heart bypass, the surgeon told the
> family, "What I put in is about as bad as what I took
> out. He will NOT live to be an old man." At one point
> during that hospital stay, my MIL was forcibly ejected by
> security - she was in a shouting confrontation with BIL's
> live in girlfriend (MIL thought he was still living with
> wife). BIL died in his sleep of a massive heart attack.
>
> BIL was ready to start residency section of his MD, but
> never recovered enough. He was 3/4 of the way through a
> bankruptcy and 3/4 through a divorce with wife. There's a
> 6 YO son too.
>
> Worst part of this was managing appearances - ex-wife and
> son and fiancee' with her family - they were NOT on
> speaking terms WHATSOEVER. BIL had purchased a unique
> diamond ring on EBAY with his tax rebate; it came in the
> day after his death. He had also purchased some videos on
> Amazon for his son; they came in the day before the
> viewing.
>
> If I never see another casserole of chicken sphagetti,
> that will be just fine with me! I ended up cooking almost
> every day anyway - the family garden was producing squash,
> field peas, and tomatoes.
>
>
>
Posts on this thread, including this one
- just back in town - my BIL died suddenly - age 32, 7/06/08, by marjoryt.
- Re: I am so sorry, 7/06/08, by chippy.
- Re: I am so sorry, 7/06/08, by jme.
- Re: I am so sorry, 7/06/08, by mmp.
- Re: just back in town - my BIL died suddenly - age 32, 7/06/08, by Novel.
- Re: I am so sorry, 7/06/08, by Positive person.
- Re: So sad . . . 32 . . . Prayers for your family!, 7/06/08, by Elaine/ret/IN nfm.
- Re: just back in town - my BIL died suddenly - age 32, 7/06/08, by Alison/Aus.
- Re: just back in town - my BIL died suddenly - age 32, 7/08/08, by VET.
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