Well, you have a few options... If you know you can succesfully
kick his a*s and WIN for sure, kick his a*s. Be sure to do it where
a lot of people are there to witness it but not jump in and
hopefully he'll be humiliated and tap out. After you kick the sh*t
out of him, you'll both be suspended if the fight takes place on
school grounds regardless of who started it... standard operating
procedure. Be sure you can afford the mark on your discipline record.

Now, your other option is confront him privately and hash out your
business assertively. Ask the question point blank: "Why do you
feel the need to intimidate and harrass people that don't want
anything to do with you?" See what he says; if he attributes it
to "just playin around" and says he means no harm take him at his
word and try to befriend him; chances are he was just trying to be
cool around his friends.

Another choice is to just deal with it. He's obviously immature and
has security issues. If the shoving continues, kick his ass in self
defense and then be done with it. If he just keeps calling you
names, you'll have to up the game and outsmart him; try planting
something on him (a small knife in his bag or a dimebag of weed,
etc.) and then narc him out to the school police officer or guidance
counselor and they're sworn by law to preserve your anonymity.
They'll search his ass and find the contraband and kick him out of
school for good.

Even though schools have anti-bullying policies, they're pretty
ineffective in high schools. You're pretty much on your own, unless
you have a posse you're cool with who will be friends with you even
if your social status takes a hit because of this dork. Either
ignore him and deal, or end it like gentlemen. Whatever you do,
there will be some kind of consequence in the form of guilt,
punishment, or phsyical effects. Just fight fair if you do it and
remember that it's possible to really hurt somebody in a fight; you
don't want to send him to the hospital, just dominate him a little.
In this case, it might be best to do it off school grounds so he
gets the message privately without having to continue the drama to
save face later.

Hope this helps.

On 10/20/09, p.s. wrote:
> I want to add that I can't really tell you what I want to because
> of liability issues. A lot of people on this board are going to
> be afraid to give you any advice because if you follow their
> advice and then something bad happens to you, they could be held
> liable. So if I tell you to fight him and then you get hurt,
> then maybe I could be sued by your parents. Or if I tell you to
> walk up behind him and sucker punch him, you could kill him and
> then you could go to jail the rest of your life and I could be
> sued. Or if I tell you to just ignore him or tell him that you
> do not want to fight him, then he could jump you anyway and you
> could get hurt and I could be sued. We live in a sue happy
> culture. Everyone is going to be afraid to give you an opinion.
> If we were in private then I would give you my opinion on this
> but I really can't. It isn't because I don't care about what
> happens to you, but rather because I care about what happens to
> me. I am sorry. I really hope that you have a smart adult you
> can talk to in person about this so you can get some good
> advice.
>
>
> On 10/20/09, my fiance says wrote:
>> I am not a guy. But my fiance says that you should not
>> apologize to a bully because they take it as weakness and he
>> says stand your ground. He says that he is only bullying you
>> because he thinks you won't do anything about it and that he
>> would take his mitts to him. But I think it depends on whether
>> or not that other kid would have a knife of a gun on him. You
>> don't ever want to take your fists to a gun fight, right. I
>> think you should talk to your parents and the school about
>> what is happening. I also think that you should consider
>> filing harassment charges against him. I am sorry that this
>> is happening to you.
>>
>> It is hard to make decisions isn't it because you can't
>> predict the future so it is hard to say what course of action
>> will have the best result for you. I can't really give you my
>> advice as much as I would like to. Just do what is best for
>> you. I would definitely get some advice on this from some
>> adults in your life.
>>
>>
>> On 10/20/09, TB wrote:
>>> Im in 11th grade, and i've always been taught (whether
>>> through teachers, parents, religion, etc) that fighting is
>>> never the best way...
>>> This kid in my grade has "picked" on me (continually called
>>> me a pussy, talked shi* about me to my friends, etc).
>>> He "challenged" me to a fight (told me to "do somthing
>>> about it" and shoved me). I told him their was no point,
>>> and walked away. Alot of people give me crap about it, and
>>> I dont know what to do. I've tried reasoning with him,
>>> apologizing for anything ive done (I guess hes mad at me
>>> cuz I "used to talk shi* about him), and pointing out how
>>> useless it is, but he continues to turn alot of friends
>>> (and non-friends) against me. Is it time to fight?
>>> ps. keep in mind, i'm not gonna say for sure i could "take
>>> him" in a fight, but he isnt stronger than me by any means.
>>>
>>> Please help,
>>> tb
>

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