Although I realise from the full text of your posts that you are on the
side of the good guys, I still must object to the use of the term "dumped
children". The implication is that these parents couldn't get rid of
these kids fast enough, and while that does indeed happen, I believe it
will generally happen when these kids are very young.

With many families who must make this agonizing choice, it is less of a
question of dumping these kids off than it is being pushed to the
breaking point by the extraordinary stress of raising a child who is
often non-communicative, presenting challenging behaviors, sometimes
aggressive in their tantrums, and very often as big if not bigger than
everyone else in the household. Furthermore, although the situation is
slowly getting better, historically this meant going before a judge to
plead incapable of being a parent, which warrents an investigation by the
State and can have unnanticipated collateral damage with other children
in the household.

The people who are truly guilty of dumping these kids is of copurse
society, as you pointed out. I recall several years ago being infuriated
beyond belief that the Senate was deciding on whether or not to hold a
series of hearings about the use of steroids in MLB at the same time a
report was being issued that the implied meteoric increase in autism
prevalance was determined to be valid, and I thought WTF is wrong with
these people that they would ignore a tsunami of children with a
profoundly disabling condition, almost assuredly triggered post-natally
so they could focus on whether or not A-Rod took a short cut to beef up
his batting average.

As I said, I realise that it was not your intent to belittle the parents
of these kids, but I had to express my thoughts on the descriptor used.

On 11/04/09, DEFACS- Department of Familily and Childerns services
wrote:
>
> foster care DEFACS - Department of familily and Childerns services
>
> On 11/04/09, Brett wrote:
>> Please forgive my ignorance, but what is "dafacs" or "defacs?" I
>> could find neither a definition nor acronym explanation for either
>> word. Daycare Facility, possibly?
>>
>> Thanks,
>>
>> Brett
>>
>>>
>>>
>>> On 11/04/09, dumped children ( a vent for today) wrote:
>>>> This was very sad. It also makes me very angry. Also sad are
>>>> the number of autistic students who are dumped into dafacs
>>>> tender loving care ever year because the parents can no
>>>> longer cope. Where is the respite care and assistance for
>>>> parents who are at the end of their rope. Where are vacations
>>>> and date nights so parents can stay married. Where are the
>>>> churches and friends who could help out so the parents are
>>>> not driven to desperate acts. I have taught 19 autistic
>>>> students now whose parents gave up custody for one reason or
>>>> another. All 19 students were much loved and well cared for.
>>>> The parents (mainly single or divorced mothers ) could no
>>>> longer manage. There was no support or assistance offered by
>>>> defacs in these cases. Just a lot of paper work and
>>>> condemning stares. We should do better as a nation.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> On 11/04/09, Dad wrote:
>>>>> R.I.P. Tony Khor

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