On 7/08/16, Concerned Uncle Again wrote:
> I want to thank the advice I received a few weeks back
on
> how to help with my 9 year old nephew who has
aspergers.
> Things have been challenging these past few weeks.
Last week
> was my Mom's birthday and Mom and Dad watch him
and his
> brother regularly. Mom wanted the family to go out to her
> favorite restaurant for brunch after church. Well just to
> get my nephew to go to church and sit still for an hour,
my
> sister promises him a donut. It stared when the service
> lasted a little longer than usual and the deacon wanted to
> give Mom a blessing. My nephew tried to leave the pew
and
> kept whining about his donut when the deacon was
praying
> with us. Then he hit the ceiling when we told him that this
> one Sunday Grandma wanted to go out somewhere
special. He
> wanted none of that and my sister was going to buy him
his
> donut. We told her that doing this would only reward bad
> behavior. But his behavior kept getting worse. He started
> yelling and carrying on in the restaurant and my Dad
took
> him outside to scold him. He improved a little but sat and
> pouted. That night I was suppose to take them to the
> fireworks. I said I would take his brother but not him after
> what he did. He really got upset. My sister said I should
> have taken him too. She had to work or she would have.
She
> gives into his every demand. He tries to come over to us
and
> pull things like that and my folks, especially my Dad,
won't
> stand it. Somehow he is better with us. Now here is the
next
> thing. Next week we are taking the boys for the week
while
> his Mom goes to a wedding. Any suggestions would be
> appreciated. We know is care plan and also know his
schedule.
Professional here. Former SEIT.
Make a behavior chart. Give him a smiley face for good
behavior. No stickers for bad behavior. 5 stickers gets s
prize. Donut? Truck? Needs to have a predictable
schedule, no surprises.
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