Re: Aspergers Again
    Posted by: Landparent on 7/08/16
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    On 7/08/16, Landparent wrote:
    > On 7/08/16, Landparent wrote:
    >> On 7/08/16, Landparent wrote:
    >>> On 7/08/16, Concerned Uncle Again wrote:
    >>>> I want to thank the advice I received a few weeks back
    >>> on
    >>>> how to help with my 9 year old nephew who has
    >>> aspergers.
    >>>> Things have been challenging these past few weeks.
    >>> Last week
    >>>> was my Mom's birthday and Mom and Dad watch him
    >>> and his
    >>>> brother regularly. Mom wanted the family to go out to her
    >>>> favorite restaurant for brunch after church. Well just to
    >>>> get my nephew to go to church and sit still for an hour,
    >>> my
    >>>> sister promises him a donut. It stared when the service
    >>>> lasted a little longer than usual and the deacon wanted to
    >>>> give Mom a blessing. My nephew tried to leave the pew
    >>> and
    >>>> kept whining about his donut when the deacon was
    >>> praying
    >>>> with us. Then he hit the ceiling when we told him that this
    >>>> one Sunday Grandma wanted to go out somewhere
    >>> special. He
    >>>> wanted none of that and my sister was going to buy him
    >>> his
    >>>> donut. We told her that doing this would only reward bad
    >>>> behavior. But his behavior kept getting worse. He started
    >>>> yelling and carrying on in the restaurant and my Dad
    >>> took
    >>>> him outside to scold him. He improved a little but sat and
    >>>> pouted. That night I was suppose to take them to the
    >>>> fireworks. I said I would take his brother but not him after
    >>>> what he did. He really got upset. My sister said I should
    >>>> have taken him too. She had to work or she would have.
    >>> She
    >>>> gives into his every demand. He tries to come over to us
    >>> and
    >>>> pull things like that and my folks, especially my Dad,
    >>> won't
    >>>> stand it. Somehow he is better with us. Now here is the
    >>> next
    >>>> thing. Next week we are taking the boys for the week
    >>> while
    >>>> his Mom goes to a wedding. Any suggestions would be
    >>>> appreciated. We know is care plan and also know his
    >>> schedule.
    >>> Professional here. Former SEIT.
    >>> Make a behavior chart. Give him a smiley face for good
    >>> behavior. No stickers for bad behavior. 5 stickers gets s
    >>> prize. Donut? Truck? Needs to have a predictable
    >>> schedule, no surprises.
    >> Also when u give smiley face say what its for. "Good sitting
    >> and reading the book" "good quietly sitting w your hands in
    >> your lap"
    > When u say "Good job...etc" big smile and eye contact go a
    > long way.
    Eventually you can break the donut into pieces and to reinforce
    good behavior. Turn bad behavior into good behavior. Don't
    threaten or punish. Reward for good behavior.


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  • Aspergers Again, 7/08/16, by Concerned Uncle Again.
  • Re: Aspergers Again, 7/08/16, by Landparent.
  • Re: Aspergers Again, 7/08/16, by Landparent.
  • Re: Aspergers Again, 7/08/16, by Landparent.
  • Re: Aspergers Again, 7/08/16, by Landparent.
  • Re: Aspergers Again, 7/11/16, by Rick.
  • Re: Aspergers Again, 7/11/16, by landparent.