Being Haole is not entirely about skin color. I am part-hawaiian and very light
skinned (the other half is a mix of Portuguese and Spanish). I grew up mostly in
Southern California, where I attended elementry school up to the 6th grade. Being
a "f*****g Haole" is one who is arogant. At times I might even consider myself
a "f*****g Hapa Haole". At such times I sit back, take a breather, and relize that
there is more to being an educated person than a piece of paper. Your daughter is
in my opinion a very educated person, one who is willing to grab opportunities to
learn about people and other cultures. Kudos on such a fine young lady.
Michelle Correia
On 5/09/06, Char wrote:
>
> I agree with this post;
>
> Cheers,
>
> Char
> On 2/13/06, Kirt Nieft wrote:
>> All the negative stories in this thread?!?
>>
>> I have taught in Milwaukee, Peru, Thailand, New Zealand, California, and in
> Hawaii (Big Island) for the last
>> several years, mostly in elementary schools. Our 8 year old daughter went to the
> wonderful local
>> Montessori school (very mixed) through kinder and the local elementary school
> since 1st grade. We are
>> haole and there has never been a story to tell about racism with our daughter.
> She doesn't even know
>> what haole means when I mention it. When I explain, she remembers it.
>>
>> I have been called a f-ing haole one time, on my first day here teaching
> highschool SPED. I have been
>> called VERY much worse in Milwaukee SPED classes.
>>
>> Much depends on the kids I guess, and how they handle it. Our duaghter has been
> hanging out with all
>> the nationalities of the Big Island melting pot since birth and isn't intimidated
> much by cultural
>> differences. There have been occasions where she has been thrown into a rough and
> tumble situation of
>> local kids she has never met before at various celebrations. She always finds
> someone to play with.
>>
>> Some of our haole friends have sent their kids to private schools (tending to be
> more haole) and these
>> kids often have a harder time in mixed sitiuations. If a kids sits on the side
> and expects the other kids to
>> invite them in, it may not happen. If they are outgoing and/or confident enough,
> it won't likely be a big
>> problem.
>>
>> Also the term "haole" isn't really degrading or anything. "F-ing haole" is, of
> course. But I use "haole" daily
>> to reference whites usually. So does everyone I know.
>>
>> My take on the underlying racism here is that it is less of a problem than in any
> metropolitan area on the
>> mainland. The resentment of locals about haoles moving in does very much vary
> depending on the
>> attitude of the haole. It appears similar to to how Northern Wisconsin "locals"
> feel about arogant Chicago
>> yuppies who buy lake property and then complain that it isn't like the suburbs of
> Chicago, or Oregon
>> locals resenting Californians moving in.
>>
>> So in response to the orginal querie, it probably has less to do with how light
> your kids skin is as with
>> your own attitudes, and your kids' "flexibility" and general sociality.
>>
>> Cheers,
>> Kirt