Middle School Curriculum- Communication- Encoding and Decoding - Giving "I" Messages.
Materials Needed: Overhead Projector Sheet with little bean people trying to communicate.
Proper use of an "I" Message. Follow the boxes as the bean people try to communicate. In the
first box you see the female bean encode or talking to the male bean. He in turn decodes it and
encodes "Did you say...?" she then decodes his message through her screen and says "No, I
said..." and encodes it differently. He then encodes "Oh, you said..." and she decodes it and
says "YES" and they go happily off into the sunset.
Proper Use of an I Message
When...Describe behavior of person
I feel...Share your feelings
Therefore or because... how their behavior affects you.
Have students practice I messages.
Pass out Good Listener Quiz as a pre-test.
1. A good listener talks while you are talking.
2. It is OK to keep watching TV while someone is talking to you.
3. A good listener will jump up and down while you are talking.
4. If your teacher is talking, you should stop what you are doing and look at her.
5. A good listener puts down what he/she is doing if you are talking.
6. It is Ok to interrupt a person who is talking to you, especially if you have something to share.
7. A good listener will keep his eyes on you whiole you talk.
8. It is ok to ask questions if you don't understand what was said.
9. Good listeners always keep drawing or playing when their Mom or Dad is talking to them.
10. A good listener turns away from the person who is speaking.
11. A noisy, crowded place is a good place to try to listen carefully to someone.
12. A good listener thinks about other things while listening.