Grades

    Re: Backstabbing Aide
    C is jealous and is the problem. NFM

    On 11/09/14, Dee wrote:
    > Help-how do I get over this? I am an experienced
    > kindergarten teacher. I love my job and work very hard at
    > it. I have a wonderful reputation in the town that I work
    > in. For the past two years I had an aide in my
    kindergarten
    > classroom. She moved from across the hall to my room
    > because my room's position offered full time benefits. I
    > knew this woman as we were all part of the kindergarten
    > team-at one time, we were a very close team. This woman
    > replaced my former aide who left and who I was very close
    > to. Long story short- my former aide, C and I are still
    in
    > touch and meet for lunch occasionally. C informed me that
    > my new aide had been texting her constantly with a litany
    > of complaints about being in my room. I confronted the
    new
    > aide in a very gentle way, trying to discuss any problems
    > or issues that she might be feeling. I did not say where
    my
    > info was coming from- but that it had been brought to my
    > attention that perhaps there were some things we could
    work
    > out- I was very kind. She denied everything and said she
    > loved her job. It was a very uncomfortable year for me
    last
    > year- having her in my classroom and not trusting her.
    > There was nothing I could recall that I had done to make
    > this woman feel uncomfortable. This year, she was moved
    > next door due to program changes- thank goodness- I am so
    > relieved. Once again, I just saw my former aide for
    dinner-
    > again we discussed this woman and how much better things
    > were going for me. C mentioned again all the negative
    texts
    > she had gotten from her- I drove home feeling quite sad.
    My
    > question- why is C sharing this with me- because she
    wants
    > me to be aware of it?? Why does this person feel OK
    texting
    > C about me- why didn't C shut that down? C still has a
    > casual relationship with her. I really love C and don't
    > want this to affect our friendship- but I am so tired of
    > feeling hurt. I have never done anything intentionally to
    > this woman- she is just a back stabber, pure and simple.
    To
    > make matters worse- she is in my colleague's classroom
    next
    > door. Butter wouldn't melt in her mouth- you would never
    > guess she had said all these things behind my back. I
    have
    > so much unresolved anger towards her- at this point I
    feel
    > like pretending she is invisible and only speaking to her
    > if absolutely necessary. Any advice?