I also had a sped child in my preK classroom (12 students)
with no sped aide who was with me for two years. We
managed. The sped people put him in public K with a
teacher, no aide and 22 other students. The teacher tracked
me down after I had moved to another city, desparate for
suggestions for working with him as he too was hurting
other children in his outbursts. Enough parents went to
administration to demand changes due to safety reasons
until they opened a self contained classroom for sped at
the school with only 7 students. Are the other parents only
complaining to the teacher or among themselves, or have
they formed a united front to the administration?
These children deserve a safe environment to learn,
including the sped child. It sounds like the child already
has an aide if I read your post correctly. That person
should be anticipating the triggers and being proactive,
not the teacher tending to the needs of the entire class.
If the aide is unable or unwilling to do this part of the
job, then the child is not learning in a least restrictive
environment that works for him/her. To me it's time to call
for another IEP meeting and update the IEP. That is not
your call of course, but if enough parents ask that their
child be pulled from the classroom due to safety reasons,
maybe that could force the administration to take action.
I hope you let us know how this gets resolved. November is
pretty late in the school year to say the child hasn't
acclimated to the environment. By now there should have
been some settling down if it is only due to that.