Grades

    Re: behavior
    jane

    On 2/14/16, Jacque/WA/K-1 wrote:
    > I answered the mail-ring post but I'll answer here too...
    > I have a similar child this year, though mine was also
    > violent (choking others, wrapping jumpropes around the neck
    > of others, poking, pushing, shoving, blowing on others).
    > I'm happy to say that by January, he has improved
    > dramatically---instead of several times each day, we
    > haven't had a violent incident for 6 weeks. He can get a
    > little squirrelly at times, but is now listening to
    > reminders. Here's what I did....he is my youngest child
    > (August 30th birthday and our cut-off date is Sept. 1st---
    > WHAT WERE THEY THINKING!!! He's also an only child). I
    > gave him a little rug to sit on right by me because
    > personal space knowledge seemed to escape him. I sought
    > out ways to improve my relationship with him which was
    > enormously difficult since I spent so much time in the
    > beginning having to discipline him. He also refused to
    > work at times, but after I put my hand over his and forced
    > him to complete work twice, he has never bucked working
    > again. He also would be purposely slow to pack up, making
    > the whole class wait on him so I told him we would no
    > longer wait for him, I couldn't let him make the bus
    > children late for their buses, so anyone slow was just left
    > (I did inform parents beforehand that I was going to do
    > this---he was perfectly safe, knew the way out)...it took
    > just 3-4 times and now he packs up and is ready to go---the
    > second time I just left him, he said to me, "I hate this,
    > why would you do this?" and I told him, "I can't let you
    > make the others late for their buses". We had him hold
    > hands with myself or another adult if he couldn't walk in
    > line without bothering others--he didn't like that either
    > so shaped up pretty quickly. One of the biggest parenting
    > issues was parents who excused his behaviors with "it was
    > an accident" or "I was only hugging"---those excuses did
    > not fly with me and he was held accountable---no longer
    > says that. I asked him in late January, after several
    > weeks of steady improvement, if he'd like to try without
    > his rug and he was excited to do so. He's been a bit
    > squirrellier (is that a word?), movement-wise, but has
    > listened and responded to reminders, sometimes if I just
    > gently touch his shoulder or cup his chin in my hand helps
    > him to maintain. There are times I sent him to his table
    > in the beginning because that seemed to work too. I also
    > made the child who was injured or bothered look him in the
    > eye and tell him what they didn't like, then he would have
    > to respond with a suggested apology and/or a mandatory,
    > "I'll try not to do that again"....every time...consistency
    > is SO important. Though his mom was resistant at first,
    > she worked in my classroom and saw him first-hand and was
    > onboard for whatever I felt was necessary. We had many
    > conferences and I sent home a simple behavior note every
    > day because he never would tell her anything about his
    > behavior. Hang in there! Hope some of this will help.
    >
    >
    > On 2/13/16, Jane wrote:
    >> I have a student who is a class clown. He disturbs the
    >> others at all times throughout the day by making noises,
    >> talking inappropriately, blowing in faces, etc...When I
    >> ask him to stop the behaviors he does but then restarts
    >> as soon as I turn away. I have found the best thing is to
    >> send him to the back corner of the carpet away from
    >> touching distance of the others or send him to his own
    >> desk instead of allowing him to stay at the table with
    >> the others. Mom is furious that I would isolate him. What
    >> would you do with a student like this? I'm open for ideas
    >> that will allow for my other children to learn and stay
    >> safe.