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How do you deal with rumors and accusations?

by Tessie

Mar 6, 2010

How do you curriculum coaches deal with the negative talk that goes around about you? I have recently discovered that I have been accused of doing a couple of things that I absolutely had no hand in. I tried to think what I could have done to make them think these things, but come up empty because I purposely removed myself from these situations so it wouldn’t look like I felt one way or the other. When I asked some teachers about this it ranged from, “I didn’t hear that,” (I believe them because they’ve been honest with me before) to “I heard that, but they just needed someone to blame and made you the scapegoat.” Because in my heart I know I didn’t do any of those things I’m accused of I was ready to brush this whole thing off as the events happened during an emotionally charged time for all and well, emotions can get the better of people sometimes. However, one person told me the other day, that in business they are taught to listen to the rumors. Okay, so here is ...See More

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in-line On 3/06/10, Tessie wrote: > How do you curriculum coaches deal with the negative talk > that goes around about you? I have recently discovered > that I have been accused of doing a couple of things that I > absolutely had no hand in. How did you "discover" this? Anyone who repeated a rumor or accusation to you is unprofessional. I tried...See MoreOn 3/06/10, Tessie wrote: > How do you curriculum coaches deal with the negative talk > that goes around about you? I have recently discovered > that I have been accused of doing a couple of things that I > absolutely had no hand in. How did you "discover" this? Anyone who repeated a rumor or accusation to you is unprofessional. I tried to think what I could > have done to make them think these things, but come up > empty because I purposely removed myself from these > situations so it wouldn’t look like I felt one way or the > other. You are not really clear about the "situations" that you removed yourself from, but it probably has no bearing on the overall outome. When I asked some teachers about this it ranged > from, “I didn’t hear that,” (I believe them because they’ve > been honest with me before) to “I heard that, but they just > needed someone to blame and made you the scapegoat.” Why did you bother to ask questions? Don't get wrapped up in nonsense and "he said she said"...

> Because in my heart I know I didn’t do any of those things > I’m accused of I was ready to brush this whole thing off as > the events happened

Good idea- brush things off. during an emotionally charged time for > all and well, emotions can get the better of people > sometimes. However, one person told me the other day, that > in business they are taught to listen to the rumors.

You're in a school, not a private business. Do you teach kids to listen to rumors about themselves? Is this person who told you that a friend??? Choose better friends. Okay, > so here is my dilemma – how much do I listen to and which > ones?

None of it... you have no idea where it began, and with all "fluff"...it dies down. Move on and do your job of teaching.

Also, how do I find out if this is the sentiments of > a few, majority, or should I care?

Are you suggesting that you do some type of "poll" to find out what people think of you? Or do you want to know how many other staff members heard "rumors" about you and choose to believe them??? This is a dangerous place to be. Unless their opinion of you is going to CHANGE YOU in some drastic way, why do you care???? When you care about negative things that others say about you, you are giving them your "power." If you know you did nothing wrong, then move on. What do you master > teachers do? Not get caught up in the BS. Teach, re-teach, reflect, listen, ask for help if needed......rise above the "Junior high" stuff that some "professionals" still find themselves falling into. Unfortunately, some teachers still act like Junior High Schoolers themselves. Let it go.

Mar 7, 2010

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good luck It depends on what the rumors are about but yes, it's important to take the temperature of your co-workers and as important to include their input and give every impression that you sincerely want and respect their opinion.

But to me it sounds like you want to set the record straight about something that's already happened- I'm not sure li...See More

Mar 8, 2010

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