Re: Advice on Quitting
    The real Terry

    Ok, even though I said I would not post or read the posts again, here I am.
    Unfortunately, because I put my email on the first post this string is
    haunting me.

    I have not been writing as "Terry" for a while, someone is impersonating me
    which is the problem with sites that don't require people to register.

    I want to thank everyone again for the advice given. I am still struggling
    with my school and have actually taken a "mental health" day today because I
    cried the entire drive into my school yesterday.

    I am not a weak person or a person who deserves the attacks and assumptions
    that have been happening on this board. If you reread my first post, it was
    written in a moment of desperation and I begged for no negativity.
    Thankfully, there were some that felt compassion and have written nice
    notes, but others (I prefer to think) are not teachers at all but bored
    lurkers who have nothing else better to do than to kick a person when they
    are down.

    Thanks again and Good luck to everyone,


    On 8/26/10, Anon1 wrote:
    > You know, it seems like everyone has tried to be nice, given you advice,
    > etc. Our part in this is to be helpful, not to be responsible for running
    > your life. Life is full of nuances and all kinds of situations, nothing is
    > black and white. So, no one has a lot of money and is more fortunate than
    > you. All of us have had challenges and have somehow lived through it
    > regardless of our choices.
    > I was going to post some advice, but I am sure that it will be met with
    > negativity since I refuse to tell you what you should do - you are an
    > adult and should be able to make your own choices.
    > One thing, no, it is not wise to leave a job before the end of the year!
    > Just my 1 cent!
    > On 8/23/10, Terry wrote:
    >> So I should just quit? I should waste 16 years like you?
    >> I don't have tons of money like you.
    >> Thank you so much for your time and advice.
    >> Terry
    >> On 8/22/10, Trisha wrote:
    >>> Holy cow! I just finished my 16th successful and successively
    >>> miserable year teaching, and finally quit! Such anxiety, still
    >>> have some, but I wish I had walked away years ago. I have a
    >>> master's degree, and tons of money, time, care, love, tears, into
    >>> this profession, but I think 16 years was 16 years too long. The
    >>> workload just got heavier and heavier, the rewards less and less.
    >>> If you are unhappy at this school, WALK AWAY...if you are unhappy
    >>> at the next school...WALK AWAY from the profession completely.
    >>> Don't keep trying to make it work. Just because you are good at
    >>> your job, doesn't mean the job is right for you. There are other
    >>> schools, and there are other occupations... It's just not worth
    >>> it. Life is too short (cliche, I know.) It's a bad sign that you
    >>> are thinking of breaking a contract so soon into the year, might be
    >>> a sign that the new way schools do business isn't going to jive
    >>> with your philosophy of education in general.
    >>> On 8/11/10, Terry wrote:
    >>>> So, it happens all the time? Teachers break contracts and move
    >>>> to other districts?
    >>>> Thank you so much for your time and advice.
    >>>> Terry
    >>>> On 8/11/10, My advice wrote:
    >>>>> First, your union can give you a copy of the contract.
    >>>>> However, for now, let's just assume you have to give 2 months
    >>>>> notice. Your contract will lay out the details.
    >>>>> Continue to work and look for a new position at the same
    >>>>> time. It happens all the time so no one will view it as a
    >>>>> big negative. Be careful when you get an interview to not
    >>>>> focus on just the negative when you are asked why you would
    >>>>> like to leave the position. It will be a big turn-off if all
    >>>>> you do is complain. Know what you are going to say going in.
    >>>>> When you get an offer, notify your administration in
    >>>>> writing. Expect to have to stay the entire length your
    >>>>> contract dictates from when you gave your notice. If it is
    >>>>> less, so be it. It will be an awkward and difficult time
    >>>>> period but there will be an end in sight.
    >>>>> Good luck.
    >>>>> On 8/11/10, Terry wrote:
    >>>>>> Hello;
    >>>>>> I need some advice and no spam or negative comments. I
    >>>>>> have made a terrible mistake with the school where I am
    >>>>>> working. I would like to continue to look for another job
    >>>>>> while teaching, but am unsure at how teacher contracts work
    >>>>>> and weather another school would even look at my
    >>>>>> application knowing that I am under contract with another
    >>>>>> district.
    >>>>>> Please advise and, respectfully, no lectures. I know how
    >>>>>> this must sound - just please help me.
    >>>>>> Thank you,
    >>>>>> Ctracy