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Please read about Temple Grandin, who also has Aspergers and
is currently a professor at Colorado State university. Temple once
said that her mother decided early on that she would treat her
daughter like a typical child because her daughter would need to
follow the societal rules rather than "her" rules. After you read it,
please give it to your sister to read. Doctors are now saying they
did not give out correct information on how to raise a child who
has Aspergers, a high functioning form of Autism. As a teacher, I
have taught students in my classroom with all forms of Autism
including Aspergers. High functioning does not mean that they
should not learn the rules of society. The child is quite intelligent
in many ways but might not understand societal social clues.
There will be disappointments, and thus one must make an
attempt to understand, maybe they won't like it, but they must
learn to live with it. Parents and others should not feel guilty
because a child does not get their way due to not understanding
that life is not prefect. Now with all that said, do role playing with
him, find some social skills books to help him understand that
changes do and often occur. Role playing and Social stories can
be found on-line as well as in your local school classroom. Good
luck, and enjoy his uniqueness...he truly loves you, that is quite
evident in the disappointment of not seeing you. Wishing you
must success!!

On 6/07/16, Confused wrote:
> My sister is raising two boys ages 9 and 5. So far, no
> issues with the 5 but her oldest was diagnosed with
> asburgers. On top of this, she is divorced and receives
> only monetary and health benefits from their father. He is
> not involve at all and that is where I come in. I take them
> out on the weekends to do "guy things" and to give my sister
> a break. I am also the one who repairs the car, fixes things
> around the apartment, and backs her up. I am also dating a
> nice lady who is involved with the boys too. My nephew's
> problems are he can get demanding when he wants something
> and he has to have at that moment-not in a few minutes, not
> tomorrow, now. He also gets upset at thunder and lightning
> and storms. He has no friends as he tends to be very
> selfish. Now comes this past Sunday. Right after church, I
> found out my girlfriend's mother was hospitalized and she
> asked me to driver her there. I said I would without
> hesitation and when I called and told my sister, she was
> upset. Not because of this sudden illness but because it
> would be a problem for her son. I know what she means and
> have seen it happen too often. But what will it take for him
> to realize that the world does not revolve around him and
> disappointments are part of life. I said we would go another
> time. What can I do?

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