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On 7/08/16, Landparent wrote:
> On 7/08/16, Concerned Uncle Again wrote:
>> I want to thank the advice I received a few weeks back
> on
>> how to help with my 9 year old nephew who has
> aspergers.
>> Things have been challenging these past few weeks.
> Last week
>> was my Mom's birthday and Mom and Dad watch him
> and his
>> brother regularly. Mom wanted the family to go out to her
>> favorite restaurant for brunch after church. Well just to
>> get my nephew to go to church and sit still for an hour,
> my
>> sister promises him a donut. It stared when the service
>> lasted a little longer than usual and the deacon wanted to
>> give Mom a blessing. My nephew tried to leave the pew
> and
>> kept whining about his donut when the deacon was
> praying
>> with us. Then he hit the ceiling when we told him that this
>> one Sunday Grandma wanted to go out somewhere
> special. He
>> wanted none of that and my sister was going to buy him
> his
>> donut. We told her that doing this would only reward bad
>> behavior. But his behavior kept getting worse. He started
>> yelling and carrying on in the restaurant and my Dad
> took
>> him outside to scold him. He improved a little but sat and
>> pouted. That night I was suppose to take them to the
>> fireworks. I said I would take his brother but not him after
>> what he did. He really got upset. My sister said I should
>> have taken him too. She had to work or she would have.
> She
>> gives into his every demand. He tries to come over to us
> and
>> pull things like that and my folks, especially my Dad,
> won't
>> stand it. Somehow he is better with us. Now here is the
> next
>> thing. Next week we are taking the boys for the week
> while
>> his Mom goes to a wedding. Any suggestions would be
>> appreciated. We know is care plan and also know his
> schedule.
> Professional here. Former SEIT.
> Make a behavior chart. Give him a smiley face for good
> behavior. No stickers for bad behavior. 5 stickers gets s
> prize. Donut? Truck? Needs to have a predictable
> schedule, no surprises.
Also when u give smiley face say what its for. "Good sitting
and reading the book" "good quietly sitting w your hands in
your lap"

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