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On 7/08/16, Landparent wrote:
> On 7/08/16, Landparent wrote:
>> On 7/08/16, Concerned Uncle Again wrote:
>>> I want to thank the advice I received a few weeks back
>> on
>>> how to help with my 9 year old nephew who has
>> aspergers.
>>> Things have been challenging these past few weeks.
>> Last week
>>> was my Mom's birthday and Mom and Dad watch him
>> and his
>>> brother regularly. Mom wanted the family to go out to her
>>> favorite restaurant for brunch after church. Well just to
>>> get my nephew to go to church and sit still for an hour,
>> my
>>> sister promises him a donut. It stared when the service
>>> lasted a little longer than usual and the deacon wanted to
>>> give Mom a blessing. My nephew tried to leave the pew
>> and
>>> kept whining about his donut when the deacon was
>> praying
>>> with us. Then he hit the ceiling when we told him that this
>>> one Sunday Grandma wanted to go out somewhere
>> special. He
>>> wanted none of that and my sister was going to buy him
>> his
>>> donut. We told her that doing this would only reward bad
>>> behavior. But his behavior kept getting worse. He started
>>> yelling and carrying on in the restaurant and my Dad
>> took
>>> him outside to scold him. He improved a little but sat and
>>> pouted. That night I was suppose to take them to the
>>> fireworks. I said I would take his brother but not him after
>>> what he did. He really got upset. My sister said I should
>>> have taken him too. She had to work or she would have.
>> She
>>> gives into his every demand. He tries to come over to us
>> and
>>> pull things like that and my folks, especially my Dad,
>> won't
>>> stand it. Somehow he is better with us. Now here is the
>> next
>>> thing. Next week we are taking the boys for the week
>> while
>>> his Mom goes to a wedding. Any suggestions would be
>>> appreciated. We know is care plan and also know his
>> schedule.
>> Professional here. Former SEIT.
>> Make a behavior chart. Give him a smiley face for good
>> behavior. No stickers for bad behavior. 5 stickers gets s
>> prize. Donut? Truck? Needs to have a predictable
>> schedule, no surprises.
> Also when u give smiley face say what its for. "Good sitting
> and reading the book" "good quietly sitting w your hands in
> your lap"
When u say "Good job...etc" big smile and eye contact go a
long way.

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