At the risk of playing internet psychologist, and hoping not to
offend you, from your posts in this thread it sounds like
you're not currently very happy with yourself. Is it possible
that the kids are responding more to a lack of self-confidence,
than to your actual physical appearance? It's true that being
physically attractive can be an advantage, but I have
definitely seen handsome but ineffectual people get walked on
by students. I think it's more about projecting an aura of
strength and decisiveness than about the way a person looks,
although the way a person looks can help or hinder their
ability to project that image. I'm not a classical beauty
myself, but I've found that if I ACT like I'm 100% awesome
(without getting too egotistical, haha), people tend to respond
well to that regardless of the reality. Psych yourself up.
Walk with confidence. Mind your posture. Speak out clearly
and declaratively, with a smile.
Good luck :)
On 9/01/11, Maria wrote:
> I want to preface this post by saying that I hope this does
> not offend anyone. I am a female teacher in my late 40s who
> is also obese. I am losing weight but it is difficult. I
> never had classroom management issues until I turned 45 and
> gained weight. I'd rather not state what subject I teach but
> I will say it is a 9-12 grade environment with about 75%
> male students and 25% female.
> I strive to make lessons interesting and sometimes humorous.
> I have been in other younger and /or "in shape" teacher's
> classrooms and feel that their lessons are not as
> interesting. In fact, sometimes they lecture all period
> which I was told NEVER to do. But they seem to have a much
> better control of their classrooms, especially the younger
> male teachers. It seems the male students are more "afraid"
> of the younger males and the females think they are
> attractive or look up to them like an older brother. I
> cannot help but think that it is human nature that the
> students will listen better and be more likely to follow
> directions. They also seem to get more out of the students
> than I do.
> I am wondering if anyone can give me suggestions on how to
> deal with this? The main management problems I have are 1)
> students constantly trying to get out their phones to text
> when I am not looking, 2) talking when I am giving a lesson,
> 3) completely ignoring me when I am giving out instructions,
> 4) forcing me to talk loudly because they just will not
> quiet down, 5) not working unless I am standing right over
> them. Again...it is not my intent to offend anyone. Thank
> you in advance.
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