Wow, yes, I'd say that note was totally uncalled for and the CC
to the principal equally so. As I read your post, I was
thinking ' you go!' and 'what a great solution to the problem!'
And by the way, I empathize with this student - I rather hate
public lavatories. But you came up with a great solution and a
face-saving one at that.
Is this a new nurse? I'd say a school nurse should be
understanding of the individuality of children and that all of
us - adults and children alike - have our weak spots and
foibles. Is this a new nurse or one who's having a bad year?
And we all have our grumpy days but on the whole, the nurses's
response was uncalled for and - inappropriate. A child too
embarrassed to use the bathroom is having a borderline medical
problem. Of course this child can't go to the nurse's bathroom
all year long but the journey toward growing up is a long one
and this was a step in that journey.
Are you a new teacher? If you are, the politics of schools can
be a bitter one. If you're new to this building, I guess we
shouldn't judge everyone by the nurse. And the principal likely
ignored the e-mail - do you know how many e-mails the principal
gets in a day?
There's no harm in the solution you found - in fact, it was
helpful not harmful but with that response to it, it's not
something you can do a second time. If are new to the building,
send an abject apology to the nurse -just in the interest of
getting along with her - not because you really did anything
wrong. I think you did everything right but it's just as right
to bend over backwards to get along with your building
colleagues even when they're dead wrong.
> Was I wrong? And what do I do the next time she (or
> perhaps another student) is desperate to go but afraid to
> use the girls' room. What is the harm in having her use a
> more private bathroom until she gets used to the other one?