Mar 6, 2011
Oh, no, just when I think I'm figuring out how to be humane in this
situation, you add info dependent on something I didn't share:
armswinger is one of the biggest all-time behavior problems in the
history of my school. I have come to love him, but he is the most
disruptive student I've ever had. He was out for 3 days last week and
the tone in my class was relaxed, calm, easy-going; I promise you this
is a huge change from our normal tension. This kid is one who makes
adults roll their eyes. In fact, the janitor and lunch ladies came to
see me to let me know that the whole cafeteria was a much-improved
place at lunchtime due to armswinger's absence last week. I'm still
glad I didn't let on because I learned a lot from our discussion. I
only tell you this now because you might want to know.
P.S. Whenever I let armswinger off the hook (or try to be understanding
of the fact that his mother, a drug addict, is not in the picture), I
am roundly criticized by my colleagues for being too "easy" on him.
Imagine my shock when some of you perceived I was too tough. LOLOLOL
P.P.S. Armswinger will be gone another week. As I said, I love him,
but never have I been so happy to fill out an independent study contract.
On 3/06/11, Jan wrote:
> On 3/06/11, dc wrote:
>> Jan, I definitely see your points about "beating a dead horse"
>> with children and consequences. Your points are valid. I'm
>> sure I responded without carefully understanding the unique and
>> individual situation of both of those boys and their offenses.
>> I could tell that Judy felt "not supported" by the principal
>> and perhaps that is the result of her knowledge of those two
>> children and their prior offenses and impulses. You make very
>> good points about sometimes the "visit" to the principal is
>> just consequence enough! I know if my own kids had had
>> to "visit" the principal, they probably would have peed their
> You are very right that Judy's knowledge of the history of the boys
> makes a difference....and we didn't have that. What we do in terms
> of management is very dependent on history. A first offense is
> handled very differently that a third or fourth offense....or even
> a second offense for that matter.