LeahYou do need to talk with the lead teacher concerning her expectations for you as an aide to Ashley. What are the lead teacher's concerns? What does she want you to reinforce? Why does Ashley have an aid?
MsBAide wrote: Hmmm, Would that be a good idea? I'm thinking yes. I get shy and unconfident sometimes though. Any advice on what to say when I bring this up? If you have any advice for me on what to say I'd appreciate it. I figure I'd try talking to the lead teacher during a meeting or take the teacher aside when she has time. Thanks for the advice
I think that this can be helpful to you: The book and Training Video: PREVENTING Classroom Discipline Problems [Especially Chpt. 12 A]
If you can get this book and video: [they are in many libraries, so you don't have to buy them] email me and I can refer you to the sections of the book and video [that demonstrates the effective vs. the ineffective teacher] that can help you.
If your library does not have them, you can get them at:
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that are also used at this online course: [link removed]
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If you cannot get the book or video, email me anyway, and I will try to help.
Best regards,
Howard
Howard Seeman, Ph.D. Professor Emeritus, City Univ. of New York
Ask her what your main purpose is. Are you there to help with her physical needs? Or is your main purpose to be more of a tutor and make sure she is doing her assignments correctly.
The girl may like her privacy, but that does not mean she is learning by working quietly. Many lower level students do a wonderful job of 'looking' smart and productive. Many of them are okay at finding answers to worksheets in a book. But they do not learn/remember a thing when they are done.
If she is a special education student and assigned a one-on-one aide, she must need help somewhere. I suspect you should be asking her questions about what she is doing and see if she comprehends what she is supposed to be learning.
I don't understand your question about what rules to enforce. Of course the student doesn't like any rules, that doesn't mean they aren't necessary. I think you would have to tell us which rules you are having troubles with before we had any idea how to advise you.
Either way, I think a discussion with the teacher, asking for help and clarification, would be the best way for you to go Then hope that the teacher has worked with the child before and can provide a good answer.
If the teacher is different from her normal teacher, she may not know exactly what your purpose is. Still ask if she is satisfied with your work or if you can improve. If you really want to get more involved, you may need to talk to the girl's teacher from last year to get more detailed input on her needs.
Good Luck, Zodea
On 7/08/10, MsBAide wrote: > I am working this summer as a teacher aide for special > education student. > She is pretty easy going and can do things by herself. I > supervise activities with her and with our activities the > lead teacher explains what to do, which is something I > don't mind much. > I am also pretty easy going that I guess it escapes me and > I forget or haven't quite mastered what rules to enforce > with her. I'm not too sure what guidelines or rules to say > comments about when I work with her. > I am thinking maybe I should remind the lead teacher that I > do see Ashley is pretty independent and can do things by > herself with little or no help, and I especially think she > likes her privacy and the quiet when she's working. She > doesn't like too many rules. Would this be reasonable to do?
.S I'm wondering also If I'm too lenient with Ashley. In particular, I just enforce the proper manners and procedures of how to do activities as they were taught to me and then watch how she does it, if she has her own way of doing things.
On 7/12/10, sportsmama wrote: > Great question! Incoming freshman at my hs tend to act out the > worst - first time in hs, seeing the end of the road, etc. When > they would act out or disrupt the class, they were calling for > attention so I obliged for a few seconds then used humor. For > example, when they started singing (not real loud but loud > enough), I and the whole class would listen for about 15 seconds > then I would respond with "Nice lyrics" or "great beat" then > ask "who sings that?". They would tell me then I would say with > a smile "Well, let them do that." This would illecit some > laughter in the class and we could go on with the days' > instruction. If there wasn't time to actually respond as > before, I would say "Hey, don't quit your day job which is > school so let's get back to work." I would even say, "Let's > finish this assignment first. Then, if there is time, you can > sing to your hearts content at the end of class." This last one > was a great motivator. I would take great pains to insure there > was enough time. > > Another issue I had to deal with frequently is spontaneous > dancing!! I usually solved this by getting in there and dancing > with them!!!! This would illicit much laughter, break the > tension, then we could move on. The dancing with them didn't > take much time maybe, 15 to 20 seconds. But the idea of a > rather full-figured, older woman try to dance like the younger > ones do today was enough to curtail this problem. Again, I > would use the "Hey, let's get the instruction done and if there > is time at the end of class. . . " then take great pains to > insure they had at least 1 to 2 minnutes.
If you choose to use humor, remember the famous saying, "If you can't take the heat, don't tickle the dragon." Humor is a wonderful tool, but it can lead to a breakdown in your routine. If there is no solid routine there to begin with, the humor will only make your situation worse. You definitely don't want to force humor out of yourself and simply using it won't solve any problems. The only real solution is found in developing routines and a calm and assertive persona. The humor will come naturally after you have a calm classroom as a byproduct of your routines and overall demeanor.
It sounds like you are really wanting to improve your communication. Start with the book Verbal Judo by George Thompson. It will transform your world forever concerning your ability to tactically communicate (including humor). I have a book out that covers the aspects of persona and routines that I would be glad to send you for free. Email your address. [email removed]
How would NHS even know of this incident? Have you told them?
> A few weeks after my student was inducted into the NHS he > was caught for plagiarism. However the way he was caught > was by him confessing straight to me. He was sent to the > principals office and the principal said if he served his > detentions and didn't get in trouble any more he would > forget this ever happened and that he had learned a > valuable lesson. He is a very good student and I haven't > the slightest clue why he plagiarized but I know he is > sorry. He is very worried he will be kicked out of NHS. So > I did some research and found 2 things. 1 is that NHS gives > you a warning for your behavior to be corrected, so will my > friend receive this? or will he be automatically kicked > out. and 2, in our school even though you are inducted into > NHS as a sophomore you do not have any points like the > Juniors and Seniors do and you don't even have to attend > the meetings, so it seems to me that you are not > technically considered an NHS member until you reach your > Junior year.
Jane BunsonOn 7/14/10, Sara wrote: > On 7/13/10, Jane Bunson wrote: > > How would NHS even know of this incident? Have you told them? > I was relying on the principal to notify them. However the principal said he would forget this ever happened so I don't know if the principal even would've notified them > >> A few weeks after my student ...See MoreOn 7/14/10, Sara wrote: > On 7/13/10, Jane Bunson wrote: > > How would NHS even know of this incident? Have you told them? > I was relying on the principal to notify them. However the principal said he would forget this ever happened so I don't know if the principal even would've notified them > >> A few weeks after my student was inducted into the NHS he >> was caught for plagiarism. However the way he was caught >> was by him confessing straight to me. He was sent to the >> principals office and the principal said if he served his >> detentions and didn't get in trouble any more he would >> forget this ever happened and that he had learned a >> valuable lesson. He is a very good student and I haven't >> the slightest clue why he plagiarized but I know he is >> sorry. He is very worried he will be kicked out of NHS. So >> I did some research and found 2 things. 1 is that NHS gives >> you a warning for your behavior to be corrected, so will my >> friend receive this? or will he be automatically kicked >> out. and 2, in our school even though you are inducted into >> NHS as a sophomore you do not have any points like the >> Juniors and Seniors do and you don't even have to attend >> the meetings, so it seems to me that you are not >> technically considered an NHS member until you reach your >> Junior year.
Just a question for all the teachers out there. My school is high minority, high poverty, and urban. We have overcrowding in our classrooms, uninterested students and parents, and very little support from administration. A large portion of our students are discipline problems. It is a frustrating place to teach. I have a question. When I walk down ...See MoreJust a question for all the teachers out there. My school is high minority, high poverty, and urban. We have overcrowding in our classrooms, uninterested students and parents, and very little support from administration. A large portion of our students are discipline problems. It is a frustrating place to teach. I have a question. When I walk down the halls of my school during my specials or lunch time, some classrooms I walk by seem very noisy, while other classrooms are VERY quiet. My classroom tends to be among the noisier ones, much to my chagrin. I find that a noisy classroom feels chaotic, and I do not like it. I also can't imagine kids being able to learn in that type of environment. So my question is for those teachers who have quiet classrooms - HOW do you do it?? I would attribute it to the group of kids they have, but I know better - the same teachers always have quiet kids, no matter what the group is like that they have, every year. The school year will be starting soon, and I want to get off on the right foot and start from day 1 expecting (and getting) a quiet environment to work and learn in. Any suggestions. What do you DO to keep your kids quiet during work times? What do you DO to keep kids quiet (raising hands, not shouting out, NOT TALKING TO EACH OTHER) during lessons? Thanks for any and all suggestions!
The point about teacher modeling is also a good one. A teacher should hold to the same expectations that he demands of his/her student.
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On 8/28/10, Carolyn wrote: > I don't work in an inner city school, and don't have a lot of the same > issues with students (behavior problems, uninvolved parents, etc), but I > do want to offer an unusual concept: let them talk to each other every > now and then, according to YOUR rules. > > I begin my year by telling students: "My first rule is that you must not > speak while I am speaking. You might miss some important information, > and besides, it's rude. BUT, this applies to me as well. I promise not > to speak over you while you are talking." I also explain: "There will be > plenty of opportunities for you to talk and interact with each other, > but those opportunities are for me to decide." Then, I quickly give them > a "getting to know you" activity where they do get the chance to talk to > each other and then to me. Oh -- since my classes are 80 minutes long, I > give my students a two minute break between periods for them to chat > with each other quietly, then it's right back to work when the second > bell rings. This is a great compromise. > > I am unnerved by a silent classroom. I am also easily distracted by > random sounds (crackling water bottles, for one). I like to hear my > students discussing their learning with each other and with me. So, I > don't have any ideas on how to keep them quiet. But I do believe my > students are quiet when I'm talking because they know I will let them > talk at some point during the class. In fact, I encourage it, because it > shows a) the learning that is taking place and b) it saves my voice. > > I teach 6th and 7th grade language arts, btw. Speaking is one of the > standards I have to grade. > > On 7/28/10, Daniel Hanson wrote: >> Amy, >> >> You bring up a very good point. I used to believe that my students >> and I could handle the noise and stuff, just as long as their are >> engaged and on task. When I came into the profession, I wanted to >> be a "facilitator of learning", not a drill sargent or dictator. >> During my first year, I realized that students will not focus at >> the beginning of class unless it is quiet, and as Fred Jones says >> in his Tools for Teachers book, "Discipline BEFORE instruction". We >> as teachers really can't teach if we don't have good classroom >> management first. As a teacher, I just want to teach and not have >> to stop for discipline/management issues, but it is a must for >> students to have the appropriate learning environment. I sometimes >> rationalize the noise in that the students can still be learning, >> but it later doesn't show up in assessments. >> >> So, I have to be careful about rationalizing the noise and no try >> to ignore it as I teach. >> >> And for me, my mind gets easily distracted by noise or movement, >> too. The older I get and the more I'm around students, the more >> ADHD I feel, lol. I have heard of adults getting ADHD. >> >> On 7/28/10, Amy wrote: >>> Some teachers the noise level doesn't bother them - and that is >>> fine if it is something you can work with. I need it calmer for >>> me :)
On 3/04/12, William wrote: > I agree that silence doesn't equate to learning. I think students should > be doing a lot of turn and talks and cooperative learning. The teacher > needs to do less talking and the students need to do more DOING. However, > I would stress here that there needs to a TON of direction around what > that looks like. What does it mean to talk productively? What does it > mean to modulate your volume? What does a good classroom sound like, look > like, and feel like? Even though it might seem obvious, there are a lot > of students who haven't been taught better. > > The point about teacher modeling is also a good one. A teacher should hold > to the same expectations that he demands of his/her student. > > [link removed] :)
This essay has been assigned to me because my conduct in the classroom is unacceptable.
I am now in the grade and have had now had years of school experience. By this time, I should be thoroughly acquainted with school and classroom rules.. I should know what is expected of me and what is not. Common sense tells me that if I behave properly in class, I’ll have no problem; but, If I don’t, I’ll create my own problems. I’ll create problems for myself, I can blame no one but myself. I must realize that class time is for the sole purpose of learning. Clowning and showing off are not acceptable. My teacher’s responsibility is to teach; mine is to learn. I must learn to cooperate fully in order to take advantage of the education being offered to me.
Some of the things which are disruptive and waste time are: (1) Late arrival to class. (2) Not having necessary materials such as books, paper, pen or pencil. (3) Inattention; daydreaming, doodling, writing notes, reading books or materials not required in this class. (4) Getting up to sharpen my pencil without permission while the teacher is speaking. (5) Shoving seats, sitting in the wrong seat, bothering neighbors in any way. (6) Cheating on tests or assignments. (7) Arguing, calling fellow students names, using foul language, etc. (8) Having an attitude, being negative and critical, or just simply being lazy. (9) Loudness, constant talking, or noisy. (10) Being disrespectful and disobedient. (11) Walking around, wandering, and being out of my seat without permission.
By means of this essay, my teacher is conveying to me that part of growing up and being a mature young person is learning self-discipline, self-control and self-respect. Self-respect is the result of feeling “good” about oneself, knowing that, I realize that I don’t have to attract the attention of others by acting inappropriately.
This essay offers me the opportunity to stop and think about my conduct and my responsibilities, If I am wise, this is the only essay I’ll ever have to write. This will be a valuable experience as it will help me to become a responsible student.
I realize that this essay is due twenty-four (24) hours after it was assigned and that one of my parents must sign my hand written copy.
Student Signature ------------------------------------ Date
Parent Signature ---------------------------- Date
----I I give a copy of this to the regular teacher, noting who I had to give the assignment to-----------------------
On 1/11/11, No more babying wrote: > I give the student a lunch detention. They come in and write what > they did wrong and how they will change it. Then they get a phone > call home. None of this "poor baby let me approach you on a > psychological level so I won't hurt your self esteem." That doesn't > work. Kid's don't care. Let them know the behavior was wrong and > call home. If the parents are productive then that ends the > behavior there. Send them out of class if the behavior continues. > > > On 8/11/10, figgy wrote: >> >> Shannon, I also have several "detention" assignments that are >> related to an offense. Sitting out of recess, etc...just >> doesn't work. >> >> One in particular is similar to genghis' but my basic difference >> with genghis is that I'm not looking for an apology, written or >> spoken. It is impossible to "make" someone truly sorry for an >> offense if they don't feel it. He/she may "say" they are sorry >> and not mean a word. "SAAAHHHHREE"...we've all heard that. >> >> I give them a choice of apologizing if he/she really means >> it.....or they can just state the fact that their action was >> wrong. I do make them respond FACTS, not feelings. See the >> following assignment: >> >> Five Part Response: >> >> 1. My behavior was on level ______ (From the book "Discipline >> without Stress....) >> >> 2. It was wrong/a bad choice to [________] because [_________]. >> I was wrong to [____] (a fact) (Student can sincerely apologize >> here, or not) >> >> 3. Things I could have done to stop me from making that poor >> choice: (make list after reflection) >> >> 4. This [action] should not happen again, and here are things I >> can do to keep it from happening again: List ideas. >> >> ("Never" never works--we can't make kids "promise" unless it is >> already in their hearts) >> >> 5. I will [__________] to make this "right". (again, apology is >> not acceptable if child doesn't really mean it---more >> appropriate: wash desks if he wrote on it, replace friend's >> pencil if he broke it, write a note to his parents, etc) >> >> This is intended to be done with a reasonable time for >> reflection, like after school detention, during recess, etc. It >> might even take small segments of time over several days. It >> can't be completed in 4 or 5 minutes. >> >> However, in some situations, the child and I can orally do steps >> one, two,and five: then out the door we go to recess (or back to >> work). >> >> The good thing about this is that the teacher is not the bad >> guy. The kid takes on all the responsibility for his actions >> (especially at step one) and shouldn't be mad at or blame the >> teacher or anyone else. The teacher can respond in a cool and >> calm way as the student grasps that what he did was due to his >> choices. >> >> Hope this helps! >> figgy >> >> On 8/09/10, genghis wrote: >>> >>> >>> i give a lot of detention >>> i am usually looking for a 4 part apology >>> 1- i was wrong >>> 2- i am sorry >>> 3- it will never happen again >>> 4- what can i do to make it right >>> >>> detention is usually over in 3 minutes >>> time for golf. >>> >>> >>> >>> On 8/07/10, shannon wrote: >>>> I'm considering adding after school detention as a >>>> consequence to inappropriate behavior. Does anyone have >>>> suggestions for detention assignments?
Is it for punishment purposes or for purposes of behavior modification? If it's pure punishment then anything that's legal is acceptable but for behavior modification I don't know of any research that says writing essays works. I'd be very interested to see some evidence-based decision making but in our school when we used these we found it was the same kids over and over again who were put to writing essays and that having them do it didn't result in any improved behavior.
From the length of the assignment, some teacher had to do a lot of writing too...
> > DISCIPLINE ESSAY > > Student's Name Date > > This essay has been assigned to me because my conduct in the classroom > is unacceptable. >
For anyone else who just needs a Sunday morning laugh, you can scroll right to the bottom of the post to see a youtube clip. If you've ever spend hours planning "the perfect lesson" but right before the bell goes you CAN'T FIND the book, you'll relate to this 2 minute video! Personally, I could have had the starring role in this dramatic film!