During table work he follows me around or when another teacher comes in he clings to her. You could call him suffocating.
I talked with his mom ( she wasnt surprised) and she said her husband is like that and she ignores her son and when "J" is like that she goes into the bathroom and slams the door. I told her we need to establish boundaries as he is allowed to do this and it is interfering with his and the others' learning.
I have had many kids ask to be moved away from him. Parents have complained. Today we had a field trip and the chaperone came to me in tears and said, "OMG J never shuts up. I can't take it. He interrupts and keeps going on and on. I want to shoot myself he is so annoying."
sigh....
I have given him sticks and each time he wants to talk to me, he needs to give me on. Oh they are gone within 2 minutes.
Ive also tried stickers when he IS quiet, but that doesn't happen.
I have moved him to sit by himself and he just shouts " when I can come back?" over and over.
I tried a point system that if he can be quiet for 2 min in my story, he earns a point. 5 points can earn some lego time with me. ( he is craving adult attention) Yeah not working.
He is consuming all my time and I am going batty. I have taught over 20 years of K and this kid is doing me in.
Yesterday he wanted to tell me all about pumpkins and started rambling. I said, " hang on let me finish this and I will let you share. He kept talking on and on. I try the finger over the lip and he ignores it. It is like he is so focused no matter what I say he just rambles on.
A girl stood up and said, "J!! enough!! Let the teacher talk" yes they are sick of it.
I do think he is ADHD as he is so impulsive. He grabs things from my hand, he crawls under the table etc... mom suspects that too but isnt interested in pursuing that.
She is very young like 24 or so and english is her second language.
It is sad when the mom says, " He drives me nuts. I want to just lock myself in a room to get away from him. Or drug him up with benadryl just so I can get a break."
Our social worker is not available to help me. no other school support. I am on my own. Academically he is a strong student. No worries there so that is why I can't get support from him.
Please offer some suggestions. I am dreading going to work because of him. 1-1 is sweet since he's so outgoing, but after that, forget it. He takes egocentrism to a new level.
I wish I could recommend Mom pursue some outside help but I am not allowed to do that. She told me everyday she tells him " it is not all about you. Let others talk." She does recognize this as a problem as he is the same way in all environments but I don't think she is equipped to discipline him.
After school today a fifth grade girl walked by and J ran to her and hugged her. She pulled away and ran away fast. J's mom saw this and said, " oh she is our neighbor. He is all over her all the time and it scares her." YES!!!
a few ideasMy hat is off to you kinder teachers because I could never do what you do. But this is a tool that I use with older students who blurt. I teach them to "rub your lips" and I tell them that it will wake their brain up so they can think about waiting to talk. It sounds like this little guy has zero impulse control. Also, you might try role playing wi...See MoreMy hat is off to you kinder teachers because I could never do what you do. But this is a tool that I use with older students who blurt. I teach them to "rub your lips" and I tell them that it will wake their brain up so they can think about waiting to talk. It sounds like this little guy has zero impulse control. Also, you might try role playing with puppets where you trade places and he has to tell you to stop talking so much. Put him in your place and see if he can problem solve from that angle. With my older students I tell them to write their story down and put it in my mailbox. That usually helps them to realize I can't listen right now, but I am interested in their story about their birthday party, etc. The "rub your lips" tool is very effective because it triggers the kineasthetic connection between mouth and brain. One last thing, try to step back and see if you see any patterns. Does it get worse after lunch or is it worse late in the day. If you can find patterns, it can be a clue to food sensitivities, etc. Mom might be willing to explore natural, holistic ways of helping her child to become more self-calming. Might he be comforted by having a stuffed animal at his desk or a stress ball to squeeze? He sounds like there is some evidence of anxiety there. Is there a chance he is anxious or fearful and this is his way of coping? He might be overwhelmed by the stimulation of the classroom setting. Just some ideas to consider.
On 10/09/14, retired wrote: > I had a young boy several decades ago who was just like > this except he was only that way with me (his first year in > a school setting). It was almost like a compulsion he > talked so much even if he got no feedback from me. He would > always have something to say no matter what the topic was. > One day a classmate got bit by the hamster and I was > addressing the bleeding issue. He came up to me and started > this long drawn out story about some relative of his who > was in this accident and the ambulance had to come, etc etc > etc. I sternly said "Not now, A...." and he stopped talking > for the first time that school year. The next day when his > mother was dropping him off she pulled me to the side. She > said that A had come home the previous day and was > devastated. She asked him what the matter was and he said > that Mrs. N didn't like him anymore. She asked why he > thought that and he said "because she said Not Now, A'. She > was on a multi year maternity leave from being a K teacher > so she understood and thought I would enjoy the story. He > continued to be a talker, but I don't recall that it was > such a huge issue that much anymore. He learned boundaries > after that. > > I know parents are told to speak to their children as much > as possible for all the right reasons. However, I think > some parents, usually the mother, did that so much with > their first borns that the child learned that undivided > attention by the grown ups was what was to be expected It > was rare that a second born or later in the sibling group > ever exhibited that same tendency. Just in my mind I > suspected that it was that encouragement to talk with the > parent with a first born that prevented some children to > not learn boundaries when it came to speaking. > > In your case, though the child is missing boundaries with > just about everyone he comes into contact with him. I agree > with the other poster about giving techniques much more > time to work then what you have done so far. It isn't > helping that a role model at home is doing the same thing > with talking. Best wishes for your school year and I hope > over the months you are able to guide him to learn > boundaries.
Here's a unique idea one of my former student teachers used: She told the kids to, "Catch a bubble, put it in your mouth and hold it there! Don't let it pop!" (She demonstrated catching an imaginary bubble from the air) That was a new one for me! The kids really enjoyed doing it and never tired of it.
On 10/08/14, JCM wrote: > On 10/08/14, Betty ...See MoreRight, Bedtime math is not designed to be class curriculum. I just thought it might be something to suggest to parents of your high performing students (or maybe all of them!). It could also be a springboard for you in trying to think of different approaches and ways to extend math thinking.
On 10/08/14, JCM wrote: > On 10/08/14, Betty Ann wrote: >> Have you seen bedtimemath.org ? >> >> >> On 10/08/14, JCM wrote: >>> Hi, >>> We use TERC Investigations math program and are finding >>> that some kids who have met the K Spring math >>> benchmarks in September are not being challenged. I >>> would like some ideas or programs to challenge these >>> kids. I really don't want a bunch of worksheets, but >>> instead some engaging problem solving math activities or >>> other ideas to extend their math thinking. Does anyone >>> know of a good book or other resources or programs that >>> are easy to implement? Thanks! > > Have you tried bedtimemath? They seem pretty adamant that it > is an after school math program.
Primary Concepts carries some more difficult ones too, they are a bit more puzzle based and used more by my first grade classes.
On 10/08/14, JCM wrote: > Hi, > We use TERC Investigations math program and are finding > that some kids who have met the K Spring math > benchmarks in September are not being challenged. I > would like some ideas or programs to challenge these > kids. I really don't want a bunch of worksheets, but > instead some engaging problem solving math activities or > other ideas to extend their math thinking. Does anyone > know of a good book or other resources or programs that > are easy to implement? Thanks!
On 9/13/14, becky wrote: > The new OHIO KRA is a nightmare to administer. The ONLY > way it would work would be to have a sub in the room and > test outside of constant distraction. OR bring in a testing > team to administer test while the teacher resumes teaching. > -It is ridiculously time consuming. > -You are expected to test and maintain meaningful classroom > activities (mind you I have 24 kids - no -help - it is the > beginning of the year - many of my kiddos NEVER had a > preschool experience. > -the child being tested has a hard time focusing in the > classroom. > -It is overkill - and gives little useful information. > -The test is a state money-maker at the kids expense. > -I am a seasoned teacher and this test tells me zip - and I > haven't found one kindergarten teacher who feels differently. > -We do it because it is mandated - but not one K-teacher I > know sees its value. Sum it up: Insane
On 9/14/14, pksped wrote: > I am going for training tomorrow for the latest and > greatest preschool mandatory ODE testing tool. After the > changes I've heard about with the KRA, I am afraid...very > afraid. > I'm offended that ODE says that the new KRA is to determine > the quality of preschools in the state....yet they keep it > so super top secret that they won't even tell us what is on > it. And as you know, K teachers aren't supposed to talk > about what is on it, either. If it is to determine quality > of preschool programs, THEN ADMINISTER IT DURING SPRING K > REGISTRATION. This current plan is like giving the 5th > grade OAA in August/September of the child's 6th grade > year. > > > On 9/13/14, becky wrote: >> The new OHIO KRA is a nightmare to administer. The ONLY >> way it would work would be to have a sub in the room and >> test outside of constant distraction. OR bring in a > testing >> team to administer test while the teacher resumes > teaching. >> -It is ridiculously time consuming. >> -You are expected to test and maintain meaningful > classroom >> activities (mind you I have 24 kids - no -help - it is > the >> beginning of the year - many of my kiddos NEVER had a >> preschool experience. >> -the child being tested has a hard time focusing in the >> classroom. >> -It is overkill - and gives little useful information. >> -The test is a state money-maker at the kids expense. >> -I am a seasoned teacher and this test tells me zip - and > I >> haven't found one kindergarten teacher who feels > differently. >> -We do it because it is mandated - but not one K-teacher > I >> know sees its value. Sum it up: Insane
Just wondering how your schools deal with teachers getting hit/kicked by students. I have a student ADHD who is super impulsive and hits and kicks his para. It probably happens 2-4x per week.
On 10/04/14, At my scho...See MoreBy the fact that you posted this question, I'm guessing that your school is doing little or nothing. I'm at a Title ! school with a ED program and pretty much a "no nonsense" behavior policy that is enforced. My principal isn't afraid that his "numbers" will look bad and has our back. It makes a world of difference.
On 10/04/14, At my school wrote: > At my school he would get a referral (physical contact with > intent to hurt) . All referrals are handled by admin. and the > 1st = talk with admin & phone call home. 2nd=phone call > and 1/2 day ISS and it keeps escalating from there. At my > school sped kids are held accountable for their behavior, > including the ED kids. > > > > On 10/04/14, Cindy wrote: >> Just wondering how your schools deal with teachers >> getting hit/kicked by students. I have a student ADHD >> who is super impulsive and hits and kicks his para. It >> probably happens 2-4x per week. >> >> How is this handled in your schools?
About 10 years ago a SED child (that was totally off the wall) kicked me as I was trying to get him in the building from recess (he was having a melt down because he wasn't following recess rules and therefore, was being made to sit out recess). Anyways, the principal (who was new) didn't want to deal with it because the student had an IEP. Thankfully, the guidance counselor (who was also kicked on many occasions by this child)told the principal that if he didn't deal with it appropriately, she would go to the union and file a grievance. I guess the principal was more afraid of the union than he was at suspending a SED/IEP child. The child was suspended for several days and the district FINALLY got the child appropriate services to deal with his SED behaviors.
I am trying to find the cassette Songs of the Tiger it is on a collection of songs put together by Marlene J McCracken; Robert A McCracken. thanks ahead of time.