Re: Cry-er, still!

    One thing I do with surprising success is to have him bring a
    picture of his Mom/Dad in (and put it in a ziplock bag.) When
    he gets sad, he can carry it with him. He can write them a note
    that says "I missed you today." (Depending on his skills, he
    may draw a pic/scribble/copy your dictation/actually attempt
    it.) That seems to help. Good luck. It is so frustrating (as
    the teacher) if the crying is loud and affects the class
    environment, but if a child is heartbroken, that has to come

    On 3/23/15, Diane wrote:
    > I have had several criers over the years. I had a discussion
    > with one about how her parents work out to exercise their
    > muscles and make them stronger. We were going to work
    > on her feelings to make them stronger so they wouldn't be
    > so easily hurt. Then she wouldn't need to cry so much.
    > When she would start to whimper, I would flex my arm like
    > making a muscle and look at her. This was our private
    > signal for strong feelings and helped her pull it together.
    > With another, I explained that I wanted to help him but I
    > couldn't understand him if he was crying. As soon as he
    > could catch his breath and use his words, I stepped in to
    > try to help him out, usually by holding his hand at the front
    > of the line and making him my special helper. I explained
    > that I was rewarding his STOPPING crying, not his crying.
    > For another, I designated a small step stool as the crying
    > chair. Anytime she needed to cry she was free to do so,
    > but had to sit in that chair while crying. It didn't take too
    > long and the chair became more boring than what the rest
    > of the class was doing.
    > No one solution fits all, and they all take patience. None
    > will work right away especially if this has been going on
    > since the beginning of the year. I always did this in
    > consultation with the parents and the school's counselor.
    > Don't try to work in a vacuum. Reach out and good luck to
    > you and your kinder!
    > Diane
    > On 3/23/15, DonnaR/CA wrote:
    >> I have a little guy in my classroom who still cries over
    > one
    >> thing or another, EVERY DAY. Most days he bursts out
    > into
    >> tears at least two or three times. It's usually that he
    >> didn't get his way about something, or somebody took
    > cuts in
    >> front of him, or something that might look "petty" to us
    >> big-people, but are very important to him.
    >> One of the kids finally said something to him today, after
    >> he burst into tears because somebody moved his paper
    > across
    >> the table, "You cry EVERY day, stop it!" That caused the
    >> little guy to cry even harder and insist that he did NOT
    > cry
    >> every day.
    >> I took him aside and quietly tried to calm him down, and I
    >> told him, yes, you do cry every day. We don't know
    > whether
    >> it's something really important, like you got physically
    >> hurt, if you got your feelings hurt, which does hurt, or if
    >> you just misunderstood somebody else. This isn't the first
    >> time I've tried to talk with him about this problem.
    >> I don't know what else I can do or say to him. Any ideas?
    > Is
    >> this just a maturity thing? This is my first year teaching
    >> straight K after 10 years of Music K-12, so I'm still
    >> learning about full-timing it with 5 and 6 year olds.
    >> Donna