To start off, I would like to mention I have been in the teaching field for quite some time now (to be exact, 22 years) I teach spanish (freshman through senior year) and there's a particular female student in my senior class who I feel has a crush on me. Now, I had students crush on me throughout the school years, but as I age, I have to admit it ...See MoreTo start off, I would like to mention I have been in the teaching field for quite some time now (to be exact, 22 years) I teach spanish (freshman through senior year) and there's a particular female student in my senior class who I feel has a crush on me. Now, I had students crush on me throughout the school years, but as I age, I have to admit it is very flattering especially if the girls are attractive. Unfortunately, it is inappropriate and extremely distracting to see an attractive girl batting her eyelashes at me and smiling when lecturing a class. Her attempts to get a response from me are very subtle, so I am not sure how I am going to handle this. She talks with witty sarcasm throughout the entire lecture (usually trying to tease me) e.g I put on a movie with spanish subtitles and I paused it when a female character was interacting with a male and asked what she was saying. So she tries to interpret and goes, "I ...am.... ready... for ...you" and looks at me....while the whole class bursts into laughter. Another e.g. I ask the class how many macho men there are in the room and her reply was, "just one.....YOU"...I went beet red. I have to admit i'm guilty of making up pet names and teasing her myself. (I have no inappropriate intentions whatsoever) I feel a little infatuated with her but she is making this twice as difficult. Any words of advice? how should I go about talking to her about this? When I tell her (in front of the class) "stop making fun of the old man" she says, "old man? you don't look a day over 35" with that sly smile of hers.
Just to get a clear picture.... when I tease her I usually say, "where's husband number 8" and "you'll marry a rich old man, then bury him and put the money in the bank' or if a bunch of spanish words are written on the chalkboard, i point on bella and ask here to spell it out for me. I don't consider that out of line. I am clearly just being friendly (she is 18)
HoOn 3/16/10, Mr.Mele wrote: > To start off, I would like to mention I have been in the > teaching field for quite some time now (to be exact, 22 > years) I teach spanish (freshman through senior year) and > there's a particular female student in my senior class who > I feel has a crush on me. Now, I had students crush on me > throu...See MoreOn 3/16/10, Mr.Mele wrote: > To start off, I would like to mention I have been in the > teaching field for quite some time now (to be exact, 22 > years) I teach spanish (freshman through senior year) and > there's a particular female student in my senior class who > I feel has a crush on me. Now, I had students crush on me > throughout the school years, but as I age, I have to admit > it is very flattering especially if the girls are > attractive. Unfortunately, it is inappropriate and > extremely distracting to see an attractive girl batting her > eyelashes at me and smiling when lecturing a class. Her. She doesn't like you > attempts to get a response from me are very subtle, so I am > not sure how I am going to handle this. She talks with > witty sarcasm throughout the entire lecture (usually trying > to tease me) e.g I put on a movie with spanish subtitles > and I paused it when a female character was interacting > with a male and asked what she was saying. So she tries to > interpret and goes, "I ...am.... ready... for ...you" and > looks at me....while the whole class bursts into laughter. > Another e.g. I ask the class how many macho men there are > in the room and her reply was, "just one.....YOU"...I went > beet red. I have to admit i'm guilty of making up pet names > and teasing her myself. (I have no inappropriate intentions > whatsoever) I feel a little infatuated with her but she is > making this twice as difficult. Any words of advice? how > should I go about talking to her about this? When I tell > her (in front of the class) "stop making fun of the old > man" she says, "old man? you don't look a day over 35" with > that sly smile of hers. > > Just to get a clear picture.... when I tease her I usually > say, "where's husband number 8" and "you'll marry a rich > old man, then bury him and put the money in the bank' or if > a bunch of spanish words are written on the chalkboard, i > point on bella and ask here to spell it out for me. I don't > consider that out of line. I am clearly just being friendly > (she is 18)
It's awkward to hear you say that you find it flattering. There's no acceptable reason to find it flattering and it says something about you that you do. A teenage girl's crush if real is just that - nothing more - and she could just as easily have a crush on anyone else. There's nothing rational in a teenage girl's crush. A crush says nothing about your appearance - and that you don't know that after 22 years of teaching is as odd as being flattered by it.
Any parent reading this would think you more than odd - they'd be worried. You should NOT be distracted by a teenage girl's confused and puerile attempts at being attractive. That you admit you are infatuated is a good thing to be able to acknowledge that but it is totally inappropriate to be infatuated with her. Would you be comfortable telling her parents that you're infatuated with her? Would you be comfortable telling your administrator that you're infatuated with her?
And you are inviting this with your 'old man' comments - that's baiting her to make a comment about your appearance - that's wildly inappropriate. Your comments about her 'husband' - these are all suggestive remarks on your part because they are over the line of what you should be saying. To say the least, it's unprofessional but at its worst - it's troubled behavior on your part.
The best thing that could be happening here is that she is making a complete fool of you and that sly smile is her precursor to the laughter that follows in the bathroom later in the day when she relates to her girlfriends what a fool she is making of you. Teenage girls these days do not have crushes. Teenage girls these days can be sexually active and with that activity, they don't need to fantasize through crushes. They can express themselves more 'fully' these days than they could years ago and they do.
Regardless of whether her feelings are sincere or sincerely mocking, you need to talk this over with someone who can sincerely help you. Aging is hard, no doubt about it, but what you're doing to contend with your age will make your life harder not easier and it could make your job and keeping it harder not easier.
We live in very touchy times - stop with the touchy remarks.
> > Just to get a clear picture.... when I tease her I usually > say, "where's husband number 8" and "you'll marry a rich > old man, then bury him and put the money in the bank' or if > a bunch of spanish words are written on the chalkboard, i > point on bella and ask here to spell it out for me. I don't > consider that out of line. I am clearly just being friendly > (she is 18)
On 12/29/14, Prof Eunice wrote: > On 12/29/14, Prof Eunice wrote: >> On 12/29/14, Prof Phil wrote: >>> In my introductory course for our major (Industrial >>> Engineering) I have been teaching teamwork and having >>> students do a team project. I teach them to use the High >>> Performance Team Model. I a...See MoreOn 12/29/14, Prof Eunice wrote: > On 12/29/14, Prof Eunice wrote: >> On 12/29/14, Prof Phil wrote: >>> In my introductory course for our major (Industrial >>> Engineering) I have been teaching teamwork and having >>> students do a team project. I teach them to use the High >>> Performance Team Model. I also have them discuss the Five >>> Dysfunctions of a Team. I do lots of assessment during >>> and after. About half the teams have successful >>> experiences and the other half range down from there. >>> After some exploration with various resources, I believe >>> that a major problem is that some students are not seeing >>> themselves properly and don't know how to fit into >>> groups. I want to use the Myers Briggs, True Colors, >>> FIRO-b or other type of self-analysis to help students >>> learn about themselves and how to relate to others. Does >>> anyone have any experience with actually using these in >>> the college classroom? If so, any recommendations? > > I like what you are doing, because it clearly supports the > theory that understanding "self" is always the strongest > beginning. I have utilized DiSC in some of my courses and I > find a strong level of understanding of both "self" and others. > I know the Five Behaviors very well and I've utilize that > program with Clients. I also introduce Tuckman's Stages of > Group Behavior, which I've found highly effective. The Teams > have to develop a charter, which spells out the various Team > roles (the initial orientation is key, as well as constant > Minim Workshops that cover a number of subjects that are > supportive to Team formation and supportive areas). They have > to sign a note of commitment. It would appear that you will > often have one or two that don't succeed; however, there are > far more winning teams.
Thank you for the information and confirmation! It will be useful. I have already looked at the things you mentioned. The on-line DISC free test was nice but they didn't give much analysis. I'm going to explore on campus to see if we have any free resources available. Thanks again!
One of the best viral YouTube sensations I’ve caught in the past few years, “The Difference Between Cats and Dogs” features a Golden Retriever and its puppy. While this video has nothing to with education, it has everything to do the student-centered learning I saw taking place in a high school science class...
He was gettin’ old and paunchy, And his hair was fallin’ fast; And he sat aroun’ the Legion Tellin’ stories the past.
Of a war that he had fought in And of deeds that he had done; In his exploits with his buddies, They were heroes every one.
And ‘though sometimes to his neighbors His tales became a joke; All his buddies listened closely, For the knew whereof he spoke.
But we’ll hear his tales no longer, For ole’ Carl has passed away; And the world’s a little poorer, For a Louisiana National Guardsman died today.
He won’t be mourned by many, Just his children and his wife; For he lived a very ordinary Quite and simple kind of life.
He held a job and reared a family, Quitely goin’ on his way; And the world won’t note his passin’, ‘Though a Louisiana National Guardsman died today.
Just an ordinary soldier, One who offered up his all; Was paid off with just some medals And perhaps a pension small.
It’s so easy to forget him, For t’was so long ago He enlisted in the Louisiana Army National Guard And off to battle he did go.
Yes, he was just a common Louisiana National Guardsman From the ranks a-growin’ thin; But his passin’ should remind us We may need his type again.
Since we did not do him honor, While he was here at home to praise, Then at least let’s give him homage At the endin’ of his days.
Perhaps just a little headline In the paper that might say: OUR COUNTRY IS A-MOURNIN’ FOR A LOUISIANA NATIONAL GUARDSMAN DIED TODAY!
[In memory of Sgt. Carl Leckband, who served in the Viet Nam War and who for years suffered from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder following his combat experiences; and also posted in honor of the past and present Members of the Louisiana National Guard, including General Leonard Pauley, Col. Raymond Pauley, Col. Pete Pauley, Spec. Jim Pauley, Col. Geoge Kuffle, Sgt. Gilbert Camp, Col. Maurice Schmidt, Col. Cookson, Col. Ray Chavanne, Warrant Officer Mr. Grover Smith, his son Sgt. Smith, Warrant Officer Mr. Payne, Major Dody, Cpt. Dossier, Col. Corley, Lt. Luke Hadnot, Col. Harry Montgomery, Col. Cecil Sanner, Sgt. Creel, Sgt. Benoit, Sgt. Edgar Sandrock, Cpt. Gary Stine, and many, many other great officers and enlisted men of Headquarters and Headquarters Company, 3d Bn, 156th Infantry (SRF during Viet Nam Era) and whose names I have forgotten at the present moment.
s/1Lt. Hardy Parkerson, Recon. Plt. Ldr HHC, 3d Bn, 156th Infantry Lake Charles.]
He was gettin’ old and paunchy, And his hair was fallin’ fast; And he sat aroun’ the Legion Tellin’ stories the past.
Of a war that he had fought in And of deeds that he had done; In his exploits with his buddies, They were heroes every one.
And ‘though sometimes to his neighbors His tales became a joke; All his buddies listened closely, For the knew whereof he spoke.
But we’ll hear his tales no longer, For ole’ Carl has passed away; And the world’s a little poorer, For a Louisiana National Guardsman died today.
He won’t be mourned by many, Just his children and his wife; For he lived a very ordinary Quite and simple kind of life.
He held a job and reared a family, Quitely goin’ on his way; And the world won’t note his passin’, ‘Though a Louisiana National Guardsman died today.
Just an ordinary soldier, One who offered up his all; Was paid off with just some medals And perhaps a pension small.
It’s so easy to forget him, For t’was so long ago He enlisted in the Louisiana Army National Guard And off to battle he did go.
Yes, he was just a common Louisiana National Guardsman From the ranks a-growin’ thin; But his passin’ should remind us We may need his type again.
Since we did not do him honor, While he was here at home to praise, Then at least let’s give him homage At the endin’ of his days.
Perhaps just a little headline In the paper that might say: OUR COUNTRY IS A-MOURNIN’ FOR A LOUISIANA NATIONAL GUARDSMAN DIED TODAY!
[In memory of Sgt. Carl Leckband, who served in the Viet Nam War and who for years suffered from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder following his combat experiences; and also posted in honor of the past and present Members of the Louisiana National Guard, including General Leonard Pauley, Col. Raymond Pauley, Col. Pete Pauley, Spec. Jim Pauley, Col. Geoge Kuffle, Sgt. Gilbert Camp, Col. Maurice Schmidt, Col. Cookson, Col. Ray Chavanne, Warrant Officer Mr. Grover Smith, his son Sgt. Smith, Warrant Officer Mr. Payne, Major Dody, Cpt. Dossier, Col. Corley, Lt. Luke Hadnot, Col. Harry Montgomery, Col. Cecil Sanner, Sgt. Creel, Sgt. Benoit, Sgt. Edgar Sandrock, Cpt. Gary Stine, and many, many other great officers and enlisted men of Headquarters and Headquarters Company, 3d Bn, 156th Infantry (SRF during Viet Nam Era) and whose names I have forgotten at the present moment.
s/1Lt. Hardy Parkerson, Recon. Plt. Ldr HHC, 3d Bn, 156th Infantry Lake Charles.]
The Roman Law with us doth still abound And as your Tulane knowledge you expound, NON SIBI SED SUIS to Judges you can tell; And ‘though some Judge may tell you go to Yale, What’er you say in Latin sounds profound.