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Is this normal for a 60 year old professor to say to me?

by jenn

May 21, 2010

so i finished university recently and stopped by the uni again to sign some needed documents in the administration....after i was finished, i bumped into my professor and he asked me if i would be going to the graduation party next weekend..(i was in a bad mood and totally didn't expect myself to cry but i broke down in front of him and complained to him about another professor)...i told him i wasn't sure if i would be going and he said, "well, if you change your mind.....i have a special bottle of alchol with your name on it especially for us" and then i said i had to go so he took my hand to shake it and pulled me forward and kissed my cheek...and then as we were leaving our hands detached slowly...umm...he was probably trying to be nice because he felt bad, right? you tell me guys...sometimes i don't understand men :) (he opened all the doors for me too as we were walking)

i'm 23 years old (tell me your age so i know whether or not to take your question seriously, thanks :...See More

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ProfessorMan This is totally in appropriate behavior for a professor. I'm a professor myself and there is no way I'd do this at work to anyone.

May 26, 2010

marcia I am the mother of a 23 year old very attractive daughter who is in grad school, and this makes my skin crawl. Sounds like this professor is hitting on you young lady. Beware.

Jun 6, 2010

Leah I agree. Be careful around this professor. He is hitting on you. Keep your distance and avoid being alone with him.

Jun 12, 2010

60 yr old prof Hope this isn't about me!!

First of all, I am not sure this was a real situation. But if it was, the behavior was inappropriate.

Anyway, I have been teaching at the university for a long time and my experience is that my male faculty here (I cannot speak for other places) go out of our way to avoid inappropriate situations. We hav...See More

Jun 15, 2010

Mom to Three You sound like you could be a contemporary of my husband - wise and watchful, but with wisdom and a willingness to still advise students. In his case it also helps that he has pictures of his three daughters and now two granddaughters prominently displayed in his office. And, the students often see our youngest with him who works part-time in a din...See MoreYou sound like you could be a contemporary of my husband - wise and watchful, but with wisdom and a willingness to still advise students. In his case it also helps that he has pictures of his three daughters and now two granddaughters prominently displayed in his office. And, the students often see our youngest with him who works part-time in a dining room on campus hanging out if she has to go in with him early due to snow or my being out of town before her job starts. He is one of the very few faculty who come to graduation exercises any more and who really enjoys it (unless they have to hood a doctoral student or are a dept. chair.) The girls and fellas are lucky to have professors like you and him.

On 6/15/10, 60 yr old prof wrote: > Hope this isn't about me!! > > First of all, I am not sure this was a real situation. But if it was, > the behavior was inappropriate. > > Anyway, I have been teaching at the university for a long time and my > experience is that my male faculty here (I cannot speak for other > places) go out of our way to avoid inappropriate situations. We have > been threatened and berated for over 20 years about inappropriate behavior. > > For example, if a female student that I am advising asks to close the > door while we talk, I say no. When I was department chair this happened > a lot more than as a professor. If they insisted on privacy I would ask > my secretary to sit in the room with us. If they want to tell me their > personal problems I refer them to our Psychological Counseling Services > for help. > > One funny story however. About 20 years ago a beautiful young thing > wearing spandex came to see me when I was department chair to get my > permission to take a class she was not qualified to take. I moved our > conversation into the department office in front of the secretary. It > was hilarious watching this girl trying to use body language to persuade > me. I ultimately denied her request and she left. Afterward my secretary > was mad at me. I asked her why she was mad and she said, "Even though > you didn't give in, you enjoyed it too much." (there goes any > credibility I may have had). > > >

Jun 18, 2010

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