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Not doing duties

by Marie

Apr 8, 2015

Have you ever skipped duties, and does anyone really notice in the big schools? I have skipped hall duty a few times now. I did it once and felt real stupid just standing there for 15 minutes with nothig to do and people staring at me. I've never heard any complaints. Today I skipped bus duty. I had to rush home to get to my evening job. I stood for like 10 minutes outside watching the kids get on thier buses then just got my things and left. There were so many people I don't think anyone noticed

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Emma K Jean, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. They do call pneumonia "the old person's friend". My MIL turned 90 in January and still lives in her own home but her health has been touch and go and, of course, she needs a lot of help from her kids (my husband is the one who lives closest so he's the one often getting calls about water in her...See MoreJean, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. They do call pneumonia "the old person's friend". My MIL turned 90 in January and still lives in her own home but her health has been touch and go and, of course, she needs a lot of help from her kids (my husband is the one who lives closest so he's the one often getting calls about water in her basement or not being able to switch her tv between DVD and television). We have her over here for dinner and a movie quite often though it's harder now because she doesn't drive after dark (probably shouldn't be driving at all) and resists taking a cab so wants us to pick her up and take her home...if she'd take a cab even one way, that would certainly be better for us but she sees it as a big expense (she can certainly afford it but it's that older person's fear of running out of money) but doesn't realize that FOUR trips in one night to her place and back is asking a lot of time and expense of us.

I'm still subbing. Youngest son is actually on his co-op uni term, working in San Francisco. He's in engineering and is working at a high tech firm there. He's had some wonderful work terms (and they pay well) and is doing well in school. Older son is in the military and, so far, has not been deployed (we're happy about this but he's not) but is being sent on courses and leadership programs often so he's being challenged. Our daughter got married in August of 2013 to a really lovely young man and she's in her third year of a permanent teaching contract which is amazing since, as in the US, teaching jobs here are few and far between. But because she's French Immersion qualified, this is what got her her job and it's why (fingers crossed this continues) she's not been bumped by someone with more seniority (not many teachers are qualified in FI).

Hubby and I are doing well - getting older, aches, pains, eye problems, etc. but still keeping moving, going to yoga and the gym (it all helps and it's fun) and, as I say, I'm still subbing and still loving it for the most part. But I can understand, with the job situation as it is, why you might put your teaching plans on hold. I do hope you are able to come to terms with the loss of your mom and that you can find some peace. I know that in the case of each of my parents (a series of worse and worse strokes with my dad and Alzheimer's with my mom) that their lives were so horrible in the last months that I wouldn't have prolonged them for even a day, especially in the case of my mother. It was almost like she "died" about 2 years before her physical body gave out and the worst of it was that her last years were so bad that it was hard for me to remember when she'd been a capable, feisty woman who was a gifted seamstress and beaded costume maker, a home-maker and mother, a speed skater and all the other things she'd done all her life.

Apr 17, 2015

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Ze Povinho It is always best to not skip any duties. Where I am everyone who has duty is expected to be there and this is written on the plans if one has to do duty.

Ze

Apr 18, 2015

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Jean Thanks, Emma. Yes, there are some things for which I am grateful in the loss of my mom. It may sound awful, but I know that my older brother (who has degenerative arthritis and COPD) was so very worn out from taking care of Mom. Mom felt guilty about all he had to do, and Mom was still falling some and falling asleep spontaneously. So, as much as I...See MoreThanks, Emma. Yes, there are some things for which I am grateful in the loss of my mom. It may sound awful, but I know that my older brother (who has degenerative arthritis and COPD) was so very worn out from taking care of Mom. Mom felt guilty about all he had to do, and Mom was still falling some and falling asleep spontaneously. So, as much as I miss her and wish that she hadn't died, I know that my older brother will now have some time to focus on taking care of himself. Also, Mom wanted to stay in her home as long as possible, and she ended up getting that wish. I am glad that she had her wits around her for the most part, also. I cannot imagine how hard it must be to have a loved one look at you and no longer recognize you or remember your history together. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I have some regret that I didn't make it down to Florida to be with her before she died, but at least we knew that we loved each other. I am fortunate to have some old family movies, photos, a record of dad singing while Mom played the piano, and final letter from her, and a memory book she made for me several years before her death to remember her by. The grief is, as you know, difficult. The sadness and crying hit at unexpected moments. But, while I felt numb and so unlike myself during the first month or so, I have gotten to the point again where I can sometimes laugh and smile - which is good. I really wasn't sure, at first, what had happened to the person I had known myself to be.

I am glad that everything is going well for you. Today, we just visited my son and his girlfriend at college. Tomorrow, he'll go to meet her family. My daughter is doing well, also. My husband is keeping busy with work and planting his vegetable garden. I'll be subbing on Monday. I took a high school automotive class job, but only after I listened to the teacher's assurances(in the sub message) that I'll just have to show a video and have the kids do paperwork. I know next to nothing about working on cars. ;) -Jean

Apr 18, 2015

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subtastic On 4/08/15, Marie wrote: > Have you ever skipped duties, and does anyone really notice > in the big schools? > I have skipped hall duty a few times now. I did it once and > felt real stupid just standing there for 15 minutes with > nothig to do and people staring at me. I've never heard any > complaints. > Today I skipped bus d...See More

May 22, 2015

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My My It's people like you that make regular staff think of subs as less than professional. If you don't want to do the job please get one you like and stop making it hard on the rest of us.

On 5/22/15, subtastic wrote: > On 4/08/15, Marie wrote: >> Have you ever skipped duties, and does anyone really notice >> in the big schools...See More

May 23, 2015

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