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four year old who is uncooperative

by ruth

Mar 27, 2011

I need ideas on how to deal with an uncooperative four year old. When he is disapointed in something, he runs away and says he is mad and refuses to join the group. He gets upset when another child has a birthday, he yells when it is nap time, he throws toys when he doesn't get his way etc. His mom doesn't know how to deal with him.

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Leah I agree with Glenda.

You may need to explore more with the parent. The following guidelines could be helpful. Also click on Parent Tips for 11 reproducible parenting handouts that you could share with the mom. All are complimentary.

Mar 28, 2011

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Donna Kosloff All behavior serves a function. If you can identify the function that the disruptive behavior serves for your four year old then you can replace the negative behaviors with positive behaviors along as the replaced behavior serves the same function.

Focusing on positive attributes is also helpful, compliments whenever possible, no matter h...See More

Mar 28, 2011

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Sara On 3/27/11, ruth wrote:

With some kids even kids this young I've asked, "Does this work for you, John? Is it working for you? Does this make you happy John?" (long pause and usually John or Susie or whatever looks pretty surprised to be asked such questions)

And then go on - "because it doesn't look like it's working for you to m...See More

Mar 28, 2011

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WOW WOW! If you follow this advice you might want to warn the Kinder teacher that the child will need counseling by the time he gets to her.

The other posters had better advice. jmo

On 3/28/11, Sara wrote:

> With some kids even kids this young I've asked, "Does this > work for you, John? Is it working for you? Does thi...See More

Sep 20, 2011

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Hilary Mosher In my class, there are always at least two people at the beginning of each year who are trying to see what behaviors they can practice that will allow them to control their environment. They often do this by being oppositional and/or defiant, and mostly within the group setting. I explain to them why their cooperation is important and that I need t...See MoreIn my class, there are always at least two people at the beginning of each year who are trying to see what behaviors they can practice that will allow them to control their environment. They often do this by being oppositional and/or defiant, and mostly within the group setting. I explain to them why their cooperation is important and that I need them to participate with the group because they are such wonderful people. If they refuse, I tell them they have one more chance to cooperate and warn them that if they don't, I believe it is because they are too tired and may need a short nap. If they still refuse to cooperate, I set up a napping cot and have them lie down. Often, all that is needed is for me to show them where the napping cot is (that I mean what I say and am prepared to back it up) and they capitulate and cooperate. Sometimes I do need to have them lie down and I leave them, but keep them within eye-shot. I tell them that as soon as they've had enough rest and are able to cooperate, they should come back and join us. They always do within about 30 seconds and I welcome them back with much support and enthusiasm. I very rarely have to repeat this activity, and once in a while I will ask someone "are you too tired to cooperate again? I really need you to share your wonderfulness with us" and get a positive response. This activity serves as a useful model for other, watching students who wonder if I can be trusted to set clear boundaries and uphold them. This is coupled almost simultaneously with positive reinforcement for positive behaviors, but I try and keep it low-key, and not over-praise. On 3/28/11, Donna Kosloff wrote: > All behavior serves a function. If you can identify the > function that the disruptive behavior serves for your four year > old then you can replace the negative behaviors with positive > behaviors along as the replaced behavior serves the same function. > > Focusing on positive attributes is also helpful, compliments > whenever possible, no matter how small. > > Also, complimenting students next to the student that is > misbehaving would motivate your student to behave as well. > > Donna K. > > > > > On 3/27/11, ruth wrote: >> I need ideas on how to deal with an uncooperative four year >> old. When he is disapointed in something, he runs away and >> says he is mad and refuses to join the group. He gets >> upset when another child has a birthday, he yells when it >> is nap time, he throws toys when he doesn't get his way etc. >> His mom doesn't know how to deal with him.

Oct 17, 2011

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