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by 1st

Sep 30, 2012

So I am a first grade teacher of a great group of students! I do have some very major behaviors that I'm working on. However, I also have some very sweet kids who seem unhappy. I overheard a table group making some unkind comments about me (specifically wishing they had a sub). This is something I haven't experienced before. This hurt - but I am the adult so I will get over it. I look at all the blogs of wonderful first grade teachers who are amazing -- they look like amazing teachers, have amazing products (many of which I have and use) and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't hear a comment from one of their students' mouths like the one I heard.

I've been teaching for many years - this is the first year that I've had this many passive/aggressive students -- ones who won't talk to me, or say no, or blow up. But many who are sweet too (even the ones that I mentioned can be sweet). I try to plan fun activities but I do hit academics very hard (but in a fun way). I wouldn't say I"m mean ...See More

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Sara br> > > I understand your point -- I really didn't want to call dad (and didn't > have to) -- but after hearing it from your point of view I will try not to > use that approach again. I didn't think about it in that way but I was > trying to give a spelling test and had her hiding in the cubbies. > > In this instance (when y...See More

Oct 11, 2012

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I teach 1st too It seems to me like you have taken the comments of a few students and given them too much validity. Yes, we want our students to like us, but that is not the primary objective. Take a look at your data. What are your results year after year? Do your students learn, make progress, leave your class at the levels they should be achieving? That should ...See More

Oct 12, 2012

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Mary pecci This brief booklet is dictated by a child psychiatrist and is a great help to teachers who wish to improve class discipline.

Good luck, Mary

On 9/30/12, 1st wrote: > So I am a first grade teacher of a great group of students! > I do have some very major behaviors that I'm working on. > However, I also have some very sw...See MoreThis brief booklet is dictated by a child psychiatrist and is a great help to teachers who wish to improve class discipline.

Good luck, Mary

On 9/30/12, 1st wrote: > So I am a first grade teacher of a great group of students! > I do have some very major behaviors that I'm working on. > However, I also have some very sweet kids who seem unhappy. > I overheard a table group making some unkind comments about > me (specifically wishing they had a sub). This is something > I haven't experienced before. This hurt - but I am the > adult so I will get over it. I look at all the blogs of > wonderful first grade teachers who are amazing -- they look > like amazing teachers, have amazing products (many of which > I have and use) and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't hear a > comment from one of their students' mouths like the one I heard. > > I've been teaching for many years - this is the first year > that I've had this many passive/aggressive students -- ones > who won't talk to me, or say no, or blow up. But many who > are sweet too (even the ones that I mentioned can be sweet). > I try to plan fun activities but I do hit academics very > hard (but in a fun way). I wouldn't say I"m mean -- but I > do sit kids out and give consequences when needed and I try > to give choices to my defiant ones so that they will comply > one way or another. I have quiet times in my classroom and > times they can talk and share ideas. > > I just wish I could figure out how to be the teacher that my > class falls in love with and would do anything for - like > the amazing bloggers seem to accomplish. I mean when you > have a little group that would rather have a sub for their > teacher than their teacher -- something is wrong. > > Thanks for listening -- I know it's hard to advise because > you don't know me -- it could be anything from how I dress, > how I look to how I communicate to my challenging ones > (thinking that I'm doing it all right but in reality I'm > not). So, I just continue to pray that it will get better > and know that I'm doing what's best for everyone! :)

Oct 13, 2012

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1st Thanks to everyone's advice! I took some time this weekend to reflect on it. I may be over-reacting and maybe it is normal for kids to act like this (as some have mentioned) but I want to figure out how to teach so it rarely happens.

Sara - you gave me a lot of thoughts to reflect on and I thank you. I truly could talk about this for month...See More

Oct 14, 2012

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Sara It's strange -- I hate conflict but > with kids I always feel like I must be in control or I am > failing (and ironically that puts me with conflict within > myself).

And it puts you in conflict with the kids and possibly their parents as well. You say your motivation in the classroom is to keep control - if you are in control you...See More

Oct 23, 2012

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