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Pushy kid

by anon for now

May 9, 2013

ushy overbearing parents produce pushy kids!! I have a kid in my class that is always one step or several steps ahead of me---it's very irritating!!!

I think it makes me appear to the other kids that I am not organized or have a handle on what is going on. He comments often "This is boring! We already learned this."

Today, I planned on checking on some details of a field trip we are going to take---he said "why haven't you told us when we are getting back from the field trip? My mom wants to know".

If there is ever a mistake on my part, say a math problem answer, he's always the first one to call attention to it.

Any advice or helpful suggestions are appreciated.

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Robin Tzucker Have you talked to him privately? When I have had students like this, I have always pulled them aside privately for a little chat. I do this at recess or another time when we're not going to be overheard (I don't want the kid acting out to get attention from others or being embarrassed in front of others).

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May 9, 2013

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Vet Teacher On 5/09/13, anon for now wrote: > Pushy overbearing parents produce pushy kids!! I have a > kid in my class that is always one step or several steps > ahead of me---it's very irritating!!! > > I think it makes me appear to the other kids that I am not > organized or have a handle on what is going on. He > comments often "This i...See MoreOn 5/09/13, anon for now wrote: > Pushy overbearing parents produce pushy kids!! I have a > kid in my class that is always one step or several steps > ahead of me---it's very irritating!!! > > I think it makes me appear to the other kids that I am not > organized or have a handle on what is going on. He > comments often "This is boring! We already learned this."

I've never thought that 4th graders really take very seriously a pushy 4th grader - they tend to think little of them, not more. They tend to think they are indeed pushy and 4th graders don't find pushy an attractive or enviable quality.

I treat such things with humor - "I can't do Everything at once, John, though I try, try, try. I promise you I will be filling in all the details and if your dear mother needs to know now, she also knows she can call me or e-mail me - I check my emails every day usually twice!"

And move on.

I make mistakes in math and other things - we are not supposed to be perfect and it makes us look silly and insecure to pretend we are. I don't ask perfection of my students so I'm safe when I'm not perfect in my own ways including math.

"Thank you John for pointing out that I calculated that wrong. But John, even teachers can feel bad when they make a mistake - your voice almost has a note of happy celebration in it when you see me make a mistake in math. Do I celebrate when my students are wrong about something? I hope Not. We're here to help not to be happy when something goes wrong - thank you for your help - once again." (big warm smile)

Charm goes a long way and it beats pushy every time. He's in 4th grade - he's still learning how to be a gentleman and that's why he's in school. If he knew how to move gracefully through every moment, we'd have him out in the work force or teaching charm school.

He actually sounds quite mild to some I've had. I had a student once who insisted that the French built the Rocky Mountains and that the Applachians weren't called that and one insisted that if she put a word in a research report that was on a topic she didn't believe in - like witches - that she was supposed to uppercase Witches as a clue to the reader.

None of those students could I dissuade from those ideas - at least at the time. Build strong relationships with your students and they won't form their beliefs about you based on the socially weakest student in your room. > > Today, I planned on checking on some details of a field > trip we are going to take---he said "why haven't you told > us when we are getting back from the field trip? My mom > wants to know". > > If there is ever a mistake on my part, say a math problem > answer, he's always the first one to call attention to it. > > Any advice or helpful suggestions are appreciated.

May 19, 2013

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mbteacher This is common in many classrooms. I have observed this same situation in classrooms before and have heard the same comments from colleagues. This child may need more of a challenge in your classroom. Often times, students who claim to be board and that they have already learned the material, are not receiving a challenge in the class. The work you...See More

Jun 12, 2013

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