Grades

    Re: smothering child with his talking
    retired

    I had a young boy several decades ago who was just like
    this except he was only that way with me (his first year in
    a school setting). It was almost like a compulsion he
    talked so much even if he got no feedback from me. He would
    always have something to say no matter what the topic was.
    One day a classmate got bit by the hamster and I was
    addressing the bleeding issue. He came up to me and started
    this long drawn out story about some relative of his who
    was in this accident and the ambulance had to come, etc etc
    etc. I sternly said "Not now, A...." and he stopped talking
    for the first time that school year. The next day when his
    mother was dropping him off she pulled me to the side. She
    said that A had come home the previous day and was
    devastated. She asked him what the matter was and he said
    that Mrs. N didn't like him anymore. She asked why he
    thought that and he said "because she said Not Now, A'. She
    was on a multi year maternity leave from being a K teacher
    so she understood and thought I would enjoy the story. He
    continued to be a talker, but I don't recall that it was
    such a huge issue that much anymore. He learned boundaries
    after that.

    I know parents are told to speak to their children as much
    as possible for all the right reasons. However, I think
    some parents, usually the mother, did that so much with
    their first borns that the child learned that undivided
    attention by the grown ups was what was to be expected It
    was rare that a second born or later in the sibling group
    ever exhibited that same tendency. Just in my mind I
    suspected that it was that encouragement to talk with the
    parent with a first born that prevented some children to
    not learn boundaries when it came to speaking.

    In your case, though the child is missing boundaries with
    just about everyone he comes into contact with him. I agree
    with the other poster about giving techniques much more
    time to work then what you have done so far. It isn't
    helping that a role model at home is doing the same thing
    with talking. Best wishes for your school year and I hope
    over the months you are able to guide him to learn
    boundaries.