Grades

    Re: smothering child with his talking
    a few ideas

    My hat is off to you kinder teachers because I could never do
    what you do. But this is a tool that I use with older
    students who blurt. I teach them to "rub your lips" and I
    tell them that it will wake their brain up so they can think
    about waiting to talk. It sounds like this little guy has
    zero impulse control. Also, you might try role playing with
    puppets where you trade places and he has to tell you to stop
    talking so much. Put him in your place and see if he can
    problem solve from that angle. With my older students I tell
    them to write their story down and put it in my mailbox. That
    usually helps them to realize I can't listen right now, but I
    am interested in their story about their birthday party, etc.
    The "rub your lips" tool is very effective because it triggers
    the kineasthetic connection between mouth and brain. One last
    thing, try to step back and see if you see any patterns. Does
    it get worse after lunch or is it worse late in the day. If
    you can find patterns, it can be a clue to food sensitivities,
    etc. Mom might be willing to explore natural, holistic ways
    of helping her child to become more self-calming. Might he be
    comforted by having a stuffed animal at his desk or a stress
    ball to squeeze? He sounds like there is some evidence of
    anxiety there. Is there a chance he is anxious or fearful and
    this is his way of coping? He might be overwhelmed by the
    stimulation of the classroom setting. Just some ideas to
    consider.

    On 10/09/14, retired wrote:
    > I had a young boy several decades ago who was just like
    > this except he was only that way with me (his first year in
    > a school setting). It was almost like a compulsion he
    > talked so much even if he got no feedback from me. He would
    > always have something to say no matter what the topic was.
    > One day a classmate got bit by the hamster and I was
    > addressing the bleeding issue. He came up to me and started
    > this long drawn out story about some relative of his who
    > was in this accident and the ambulance had to come, etc etc
    > etc. I sternly said "Not now, A...." and he stopped talking
    > for the first time that school year. The next day when his
    > mother was dropping him off she pulled me to the side. She
    > said that A had come home the previous day and was
    > devastated. She asked him what the matter was and he said
    > that Mrs. N didn't like him anymore. She asked why he
    > thought that and he said "because she said Not Now, A'. She
    > was on a multi year maternity leave from being a K teacher
    > so she understood and thought I would enjoy the story. He
    > continued to be a talker, but I don't recall that it was
    > such a huge issue that much anymore. He learned boundaries
    > after that.
    >
    > I know parents are told to speak to their children as much
    > as possible for all the right reasons. However, I think
    > some parents, usually the mother, did that so much with
    > their first borns that the child learned that undivided
    > attention by the grown ups was what was to be expected It
    > was rare that a second born or later in the sibling group
    > ever exhibited that same tendency. Just in my mind I
    > suspected that it was that encouragement to talk with the
    > parent with a first born that prevented some children to
    > not learn boundaries when it came to speaking.
    >
    > In your case, though the child is missing boundaries with
    > just about everyone he comes into contact with him. I agree
    > with the other poster about giving techniques much more
    > time to work then what you have done so far. It isn't
    > helping that a role model at home is doing the same thing
    > with talking. Best wishes for your school year and I hope
    > over the months you are able to guide him to learn
    > boundaries.