Grades

    Re: Behavior and mom
    maureen

    On 2/22/15, Getting too old for this wrote:
    > I have a student who tattles constantly. I told her that
    > I would not listen unless she is hurt or someone else is
    > hurt. Mom does not like this one bit. Tells me that
    > daughter feels like I am not paying attention to her. She
    > is also one that wants to go to the nurse frequently. I
    > won't let her unless she is feverish or about to get
    > sick. Again mom does not like this. Mom is now going to
    > meet with the principal over all this nonsense. I know my
    > admin. will stand behind me, but how do you handle
    > parents and these types of problems?

    As we already know, children who tattle do this for the
    attention. Obviously, the child has not transitioned yet
    from getting total attention from mom and sharing the
    teacher with the other students.

    The way I always handled the chronic tattlers was when the
    child approached me with an obvious tattle (not that
    someone was getting hurt type of announcement but the
    frivolous ones I would ask "Why are you telling me this? Do
    you want to get ______ in trouble? Or are you worried that
    _____ is in danger? Or Are you concerned that I didn't
    already know that ______ was doing whatever?" If the child
    is forced to think about WHY she is tattling it tends to go
    away after several days. Often it is only that the child is
    worried that someone isn't following the rules and she
    wants to be sure that you are noticing that, too. Hope that
    helps with the child anyway!