Grades

    Re: behavior
    Jacque/WA/K-1

    I answered the mail-ring post but I'll answer here too...
    I have a similar child this year, though mine was also
    violent (choking others, wrapping jumpropes around the neck
    of others, poking, pushing, shoving, blowing on others).
    I'm happy to say that by January, he has improved
    dramatically---instead of several times each day, we
    haven't had a violent incident for 6 weeks. He can get a
    little squirrelly at times, but is now listening to
    reminders. Here's what I did....he is my youngest child
    (August 30th birthday and our cut-off date is Sept. 1st---
    WHAT WERE THEY THINKING!!! He's also an only child). I
    gave him a little rug to sit on right by me because
    personal space knowledge seemed to escape him. I sought
    out ways to improve my relationship with him which was
    enormously difficult since I spent so much time in the
    beginning having to discipline him. He also refused to
    work at times, but after I put my hand over his and forced
    him to complete work twice, he has never bucked working
    again. He also would be purposely slow to pack up, making
    the whole class wait on him so I told him we would no
    longer wait for him, I couldn't let him make the bus
    children late for their buses, so anyone slow was just left
    (I did inform parents beforehand that I was going to do
    this---he was perfectly safe, knew the way out)...it took
    just 3-4 times and now he packs up and is ready to go---the
    second time I just left him, he said to me, "I hate this,
    why would you do this?" and I told him, "I can't let you
    make the others late for their buses". We had him hold
    hands with myself or another adult if he couldn't walk in
    line without bothering others--he didn't like that either
    so shaped up pretty quickly. One of the biggest parenting
    issues was parents who excused his behaviors with "it was
    an accident" or "I was only hugging"---those excuses did
    not fly with me and he was held accountable---no longer
    says that. I asked him in late January, after several
    weeks of steady improvement, if he'd like to try without
    his rug and he was excited to do so. He's been a bit
    squirrellier (is that a word?), movement-wise, but has
    listened and responded to reminders, sometimes if I just
    gently touch his shoulder or cup his chin in my hand helps
    him to maintain. There are times I sent him to his table
    in the beginning because that seemed to work too. I also
    made the child who was injured or bothered look him in the
    eye and tell him what they didn't like, then he would have
    to respond with a suggested apology and/or a mandatory,
    "I'll try not to do that again"....every time...consistency
    is SO important. Though his mom was resistant at first,
    she worked in my classroom and saw him first-hand and was
    onboard for whatever I felt was necessary. We had many
    conferences and I sent home a simple behavior note every
    day because he never would tell her anything about his
    behavior. Hang in there! Hope some of this will help.

    On 2/13/16, Jane wrote:
    > I have a student who is a class clown. He disturbs the
    > others at all times throughout the day by making noises,
    > talking inappropriately, blowing in faces, etc...When I
    > ask him to stop the behaviors he does but then restarts
    > as soon as I turn away. I have found the best thing is to
    > send him to the back corner of the carpet away from
    > touching distance of the others or send him to his own
    > desk instead of allowing him to stay at the table with
    > the others. Mom is furious that I would isolate him. What
    > would you do with a student like this? I'm open for ideas
    > that will allow for my other children to learn and stay
    > safe.