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Stressing out

by Marie

Sep 3, 2014

It's early in the year but now I find myself stressing out over things that happened over the course of the school day. Like yesterday, I let an eighth-grader pick up her younger sister. Also, I told a another student her older sister misbehaved in my class, and she said she would tell her mom about it. It does not help that I got banned from a school last year for not "acting like a teacher" Basically I let the instructional aide run the lesson and the assistant principal called me into her office and I was so upset after I couldn't eat dinner. Does anyone stress out over things that happened, things that seem harmless to us that people can make a big deal of?

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harpazo On 9/03/14, Marie wrote: > It's early in the year but now I find myself stressing out > over things that happened over the course of the school day. > Like yesterday, I let an eighth- grader pick up her younger > sister. Also, I told a another student her older sister > misbehaved in my class, and she said she would tell her mom >...See More

Sep 9, 2014

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I have suffered some of these same concerns!

On 9/06/14, Ze Povinho-even more wrote:

> Here are yet more responses from subs from other forums

> regarding that grotesque game that school districts like to

> play with subs-the one about bait and switch (i.e.

> preaching the American ideals of truth, fairness, justice, ...See More

Sep 16, 2014

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Here is the thread for Amy On 9/05/14, Ze Povinho part 2 wrote: > Let us now go over some hints that can be used to try > (emphasis on try) to survive the day. > > 1. First of all, understand that you want to talk to > admins as little as possible. Everything can happen if you > do; there is no such thing as light talk as far as they > are concerned. If ...See MoreOn 9/05/14, Ze Povinho part 2 wrote: > Let us now go over some hints that can be used to try > (emphasis on try) to survive the day. > > 1. First of all, understand that you want to talk to > admins as little as possible. Everything can happen if you > do; there is no such thing as light talk as far as they > are concerned. If you are asked how things are going, > please don't let out the difficulties you might have had > with the thug who masquerades as a student or how he told > you to $#@$@. You say, "Things are going fine, sir/ma'am. > There are no issues to report." Note that I said, > "issues," and not problems. > > And try to ask for as little help (or none at all) from > admins.As far as I am concerned, the very last person I > want to see is the principal. If you ask for assistance > from them, everything goes. You can be given assistance, > or that request can be your death warrant at the site. You > can be seen as incompetent for asking for help and thus > banned. I will cite example, don't worry. > > 2. Remember that I stated that the First Amendment does > not exist as far as subs are concerned? If you google > "sub" and "banned" or "fired" you will come across > articles that state how subs got fired for saying things > that were not really part of the lesson plan. So, please > keep your opinions to yourself and stick to the lesson > plan without adding anything that is not part of the > lesson-and this includes your life experiences. Children > can be offended, or they can feel uncomfortable. You will > be in deep trouble if a child is offended or feels > uncomfortable. Best to be safe than sorry. Remember, we > are not allowed to commit mistakes. > > 3. If possible, eat your lunch in the classroom or go to a > nearby restaurant. You will find that teacher lounges can > be veritable nests of vipers where gossip about teachers > and students, and an intellectual hard vacuum can be > present. Many times, I have gotten depressed just > listening to the vacuous talk of many full timers. So much > that I just eat my lunch in the room, all alone. But even > if you decide to mingle with full timers at the lounge, > watch what you say. Even at the lounge, everything you say > can and will be used against you. Again, examples later. > > 4. Never comment on anyone's appearance or, if you are a > male, look directly at a woman. I have learned the art of > averted vision when dealing with women and girls. It's > very handy to avoid being accused of "staring" at women or > girl students and thus being branded a weirdo or harasser. > And if you are labeled this, you are practically done in > the site and probably the district. Commenting on the > appearance of someone is a great way to be accused of > harassment. Remember-you are in a military dictatorship > environment, and you, the accused, have no rights or due > process even if the accusation is bogus. > > 5. When you enter a classroom, take notes and photos > regarding its condition. Note which items are not working > or have been vandalized. Note the condition of the books. > You get the point. Avoid even borrowing the teacher's > materials like paper or pens. Do what it is necessary to > avoid being accused of stealing district property or > worse. Stay away from classroom computers. And put away > your own cell. And leave the room neat. Stay after school > to pick up every single piece of trash if you have to. > Clean the board and all the desks. Sweep the floor. > Straighten the room and desks. Subs have been fired for > not leaving the room neat. > > 6. If a student asks to go to the restroom, just let him > or her go with no questions asked. If you don't and s/he > has an accident, guess who will be in trouble? I thought > so. And in your hearing regarding your being banned for > not letting the student go to the restroom, you might say > that you thought s/he did not need to go because s/he > wanted to just go to play with his friends. The HR > official's likely question to you: "Are you qualified to > assess this? Are you a medical doctor?" Point: you have > zero defense if things go wrong. > > 7. Understand that there are literally dozens of reasons > that regular teachers and admins can use to have us banned > or even fired. Many of these reasons are very petty. Yes, > I do recognize that there are subs who truly are > incompetent and even behave inappropriately, but to be > written for losing paper clips, asking for help in > classroom management techniques, or some other petty > reason can cause a lot of tension. > > Part 3 later today. I need to sleep

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