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Difficult Preschooler

by Anne

Aug 19, 2013

Hello all,

I am looking for some help with a little girl that I have in my three-year-old classroom: She loves getting in trouble.

Every time she does something wrong, she smiles and laughs about her bad choice. She will push/hit/kick/etc people, specifically and especially my two special needs kids, and then turn to see our reaction and smile at us. She spends the entirety of carpet time talking to and distracting all of the people around her. If we ask her to do something, she will scream, "WHY?" and yell at us. She poops and pees in her diaper on purpose and refuses to go on the toilet, even though I know that she is capable of going. When we get upset with her, she asks us if she's going to get in trouble like she's excited about it and wants to know if she "gets to" go see the principal.

She's been in our room for five months and I am out of ideas. We have tried a sticker chart, a smiley/sad face chart, our pom pom jar (the classroom behavioral manage...See More

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marian ligir On 8/19/13, Anne wrote: > Hello all, > > I am looking for some help with a little girl that I have > in my three-year-old classroom: She loves getting in > trouble. > > Every time she does something wrong, she smiles and laughs > about her bad choice. She will push/hit/kick/etc people, > specifically and especially my two...See More

May 30, 2014

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Kathy M Hello Anne,

I've been reading about parenting in this electronic world. Children misbehave more and engage in negative behavior more often in correlation to the amount of time parents are engaged with their phone/device. If this is a possibility, she will have to learn that it doesn't work in your world. I teach high school, and we have th...See More

Jun 15, 2014

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Jun 15, 2014

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Renee Hello Anne,

I also work with 3-4 year olds. I have a number of "difficult" preschoolers in my group. It sounds like you've tried many things. I would be frustrated too. I'm just wondering whether or not you have the parents support? Are they backing you up and following through with consequences at home. Sometimes that makes all ...See MoreHello Anne,

I also work with 3-4 year olds. I have a number of "difficult" preschoolers in my group. It sounds like you've tried many things. I would be frustrated too. I'm just wondering whether or not you have the parents support? Are they backing you up and following through with consequences at home. Sometimes that makes all the difference. We always start by trying to work it out with the child ourselves, we hate to have the child received 2 consequences, one with us and then one at home. But if the school consequences aren't working it may be time to speak to the parents about giving some serious consequences at home. Now its quite possible you've already done this! Here is an out of the box idea that always works for me. I know its weird and you have to be willing to humble yourself to make this work. Its not easy to be extremely loving and attentive to a child who is driving you nuts and hurting other children. But try! You need to become the childs best friend. Cuddle and hug the child every day, compliment them and play with the child. Develop a strong bond. Once you have done this you will have power of this little person. Sounds a little manipulative but once the child has your love they wont want to lose it. A parents love is unconditional. In life the love of our friends is not. If you constantly treat your friends badly, they wont be your friends for long right? When the child behaves badly (which of course they will!) you deny the child your love and affection. The child will want to please you and the negative behaviour will be much diminished. The most difficult children always end up being my favorite. They have spunk and personality and I love them even if they are a little rough around the edges. The relationships that I build with my more difficult children somehow feel more meaningful and rewarding because I had to really work at them. I know that we want the children to learn to make good choices, not to learn to be obedient to one teacher that they want to please...what I'm saying is that through this exercise they will get into the habit of making good choices. At first it will be to please you, but eventually it will be for the right reasons. Good Luck!

On 8/19/13, Anne wrote: > Hello all, > > I am looking for some help with a little girl that I have > in my three-year-old classroom: She loves getting in > trouble. > > Every time she does something wrong, she smiles and laughs > about her bad choice. She will push/hit/kick/etc people, > specifically and especially my two special needs kids, and > then turn to see our reaction and smile at us. She spends > the entirety of carpet time talking to and distracting all > of the people around her. If we ask her to do something, > she will scream, "WHY?" and yell at us. She poops and pees > in her diaper on purpose and refuses to go on the toilet, > even though I know that she is capable of going. When we > get upset with her, she asks us if she's going to get in > trouble like she's excited about it and wants to know if > she "gets to" go see the principal. > > She's been in our room for five months and I am out of > ideas. We have tried a sticker chart, a smiley/sad face > chart, our pom pom jar (the classroom behavioral management > system), stickers, etc and she just doesn't care. She would > rather get negative attention than positive attention and > I'm out of ideas on how to change that around. > > If anyone has any suggestions, I would really appreciate it > because we're getting incredibly frustrated with her.

Feb 27, 2015

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Corinthia Johnson On 7/31/15, Corinthia Johnson wrote: > On 7/31/15, Corinthia Johnson wrote: >> On 7/31/15, Corinthia Johnson wrote: >>> On 8/19/13, Anne wrote: >>>> Hello all, >>>> >>>> I am looking for some help with a little girl that I have >>>> in my three-year-old classroom: She loves getting i...See More

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