Re: Cry-er, still!

    I have had several criers over the years. I had a discussion
    with one about how her parents work out to exercise their
    muscles and make them stronger. We were going to work
    on her feelings to make them stronger so they wouldn't be
    so easily hurt. Then she wouldn't need to cry so much.
    When she would start to whimper, I would flex my arm like
    making a muscle and look at her. This was our private
    signal for strong feelings and helped her pull it together.

    With another, I explained that I wanted to help him but I
    couldn't understand him if he was crying. As soon as he
    could catch his breath and use his words, I stepped in to
    try to help him out, usually by holding his hand at the front
    of the line and making him my special helper. I explained
    that I was rewarding his STOPPING crying, not his crying.

    For another, I designated a small step stool as the crying
    chair. Anytime she needed to cry she was free to do so,
    but had to sit in that chair while crying. It didn't take too
    long and the chair became more boring than what the rest
    of the class was doing.

    No one solution fits all, and they all take patience. None
    will work right away especially if this has been going on
    since the beginning of the year. I always did this in
    consultation with the parents and the school's counselor.
    Don't try to work in a vacuum. Reach out and good luck to
    you and your kinder!


    On 3/23/15, DonnaR/CA wrote:
    > I have a little guy in my classroom who still cries over
    > thing or another, EVERY DAY. Most days he bursts out
    > tears at least two or three times. It's usually that he
    > didn't get his way about something, or somebody took
    cuts in
    > front of him, or something that might look "petty" to us
    > big-people, but are very important to him.
    > One of the kids finally said something to him today, after
    > he burst into tears because somebody moved his paper
    > the table, "You cry EVERY day, stop it!" That caused the
    > little guy to cry even harder and insist that he did NOT
    > every day.
    > I took him aside and quietly tried to calm him down, and I
    > told him, yes, you do cry every day. We don't know
    > it's something really important, like you got physically
    > hurt, if you got your feelings hurt, which does hurt, or if
    > you just misunderstood somebody else. This isn't the first
    > time I've tried to talk with him about this problem.
    > I don't know what else I can do or say to him. Any ideas?
    > this just a maturity thing? This is my first year teaching
    > straight K after 10 years of Music K-12, so I'm still
    > learning about full-timing it with 5 and 6 year olds.
    > Donna