One of the teachers I taught with is retiring after 35 years in the classroom. Her team members are planning a retirement party for her at a winery and the cost to attend is $25. Is it just me or is it tacky for friends to plan a party and ask the guests to pay their own way?
HOWEVER - I do mind being asked to attend a district level function, a department function, and a building function all for the same person all within a few week's time.
My district is very bad with this. We need to decide where the celebrations happen and stick to it. Not have three for every single person who retires.
It simply gets too costly, and I would not want anyone feeling obligated to do all three of those for me when my time comes either.
On 4/30/17, Judy2/CA wrote: > I don't think that's unusual for a retirement party. I live in > an area with a lot of wineries. They charge for the use of > the venue. $25 is actually pretty cheap. > > On 4/30/17, Retired K teacher wrote: >> One of the teachers I taught with is retiring after 35 > years in the classroom. Her team members are planning > a retirement party for her at a winery and the cost to > attend is $25. Is it just me or is it tacky for friends to plan > a party and ask the guests to pay their own way?
elsievIt's pretty much a standard practice to ask all attendees to chip in and pay their share of the costs as well as a chunk for a nice gift. It's not like this is a pot luck at somebodies house.
by Wondering--have not been to a wedding in a while
Apr 28, 2017
We received a wedding invitation in the mail, and the couple states that our presence is a gift, but if guests would like, they are asking for guests to help pay for their honeymoon. Is this the new normal? WFIW, I don't really want to help pay for a honeymoon for two 30-somethings, each of whom have high-paying jobs and no student debt! TIA!
On 4/28/17, haha wrote: > It's basically their way of asking for cash instead of a > gift. It might strike some people as tacky but is it really > any different then doing a gift register and telling people > exactly what they want their guests to buy them? > > I don't think we would have done it for our wedding but I > guess if they don't really need a lot of stuff to set up > house then I can understand it. > > On 4/28/17, SandArt to Iwakuni Math wrote: >> I think it's TACKY. I wouldn't do it. I married young and >> my husband and I paid for our own wedding. Didn't >> expect anything from anyone. >> >> Still, I think if it was a couple I really cared about, I'd > give >> them money. I usually give money regardless because >> couples get all sorts of horrible gifts. I cannot begin to >> tell you about all of the gifts we got which we did not >> need. We donated most. >> >> Yes, it's the thought that counts, but I'd like to think > that >> I care enough about the recipient to get them something >> they'd want and need, not things I'd want and need >> which is the problem. >> >> Gift givers often give things they would have wanted >> without thinking of the recipient which is why so many >> people return, regift, or donate gifts.
On 4/28/17, haha wrote: > It's basically their way of asking for cash instead of a > gift. It might strike some people as tacky but is it really > any different then doing a gift register and telling people > exactly what they want their guests to buy them? > > I don't think we would have done it for our wedding but I > guess if they don't really need a lot of stuff to set up > house then I can understand it. > > On 4/28/17, SandArt to Iwakuni Math wrote: >> I think it's TACKY. I wouldn't do it. I married young and >> my husband and I paid for our own wedding. Didn't >> expect anything from anyone. >> >> Still, I think if it was a couple I really cared about, I'd > give >> them money. I usually give money regardless because >> couples get all sorts of horrible gifts. I cannot begin to >> tell you about all of the gifts we got which we did not >> need. We donated most. >> >> Yes, it's the thought that counts, but I'd like to think > that >> I care enough about the recipient to get them something >> they'd want and need, not things I'd want and need >> which is the problem. >> >> Gift givers often give things they would have wanted >> without thinking of the recipient which is why so many >> people return, regift, or donate gifts.
On 4/29/17, DonnaR/CA wrote: > On 4/28/17, Cal-Kid wrote: >> On 4/26/17, disgruntled wrote: >>> I typed a long, thoughtful message and the stupid site >> ate the post. Why does this site have SO many problems?! > > I've had this happen, too. Or, I've written a long, > thoughtful message and it gets referred to moderation, never > to be seen again. > > My preference was where you'd see a list of threads and their > responses when you checked into your chatboard of choice, > rather than the "latest posts". I'm not much fond of coming > in and seeing the ends of threads. > > > Donna
The Retired Teachers Chatboard has moved, and all links have now been updated (see below).
I've also had content lost when I inadvertently navigated away from a started post, so I'm adding a bit of javascript that will throw up an alert if you've started typing a post and leave the page without hitting submit.
Keep the feedback coming, the new chatboard and site format is a major upgrade that's been needed for years, so I appreciate your patience while I swing a few hammers and try to get it right....
Bob R/CAOn 4/29/17, teach wrote: > This new page is not mobile friendly, I can't get to chat boards or groups. It is a blank page when I click on the links.
I just noticed that today - it should be fixed or fixed soon.
I have a 2002 Lancer sedan and would like to get something newer and reliable. I'm retired and mostly do local driving and have a Dodge Caravan if we travel. I need some suggestions for the less expensive makes. I was thinking Honda or Hundai.
Judy2/CAWe have a 2003 Elantra that we love. We have never had a problem with it. Also a 2001 Civic. Love both cars but when we buy a new car in a few months it will be another Elantra.
On 4/27/17, ron/nj wrote: > I see I can lease an Elantra for around $69/mo. That may be > the way to go instead of buying.
The police officer who came to take the report said thieves smooth down the edges of keys and can open doors/start cars that way. DANG!
On 4/28/17, Cal-kid wrote: > Hi Positive Person. Sorry about your car. I miss everyone on > the retired teacher board. It does not work. > > Yes you would think auto thieves would not be able to drive a > manual transmission. At least they won't be driving and > texting. Or maybe they will be texting with one hand, shifting > with the other hand and steering with leg on the steering > wheel! I think Honda Accords of that year were easy to steal > and stolen often. A special ed. teacher at my school had one > the same year stolen out of the parking lot. > > Your new car is probably a lot safer and more fun to drive. Is > winter over now? Our granddaughters just moved from over the > hill to the California valley side of things. Much warmer! > > On 4/27/17, Positive person wrote: >> >> I always recommend going to the annual April car issue of >> Consumer Reports. My 1996 Honda Accord was stolen from a >> mall last November (straight stick, which I thought might >> prevent some thieves), with 125,000 miles on it. I would >> easily have been able to drive it another 100,000 miles-- >> drat! I ended up with a 2013 Honda Accord, and am still >> getting used to all the stuff my 20 year old Honda didn't >> have! >> >> >> >> >> On 4/27/17, ron/nj wrote: >>> I see I can lease an Elantra for around $69/mo. That may >> be >>> the way to go instead of buying.
105 minute walk for me today. Lovely sunny warm day. Best part: I still had exercise clothes on when the health aide got here and she said I looked skinny. Of course my tank was a slimming black. :)
HOWEVER - I do mind being asked to attend a district level function, a department function, and a building function all for the same person all within a few week's time.
My district is very bad with this. We need to decide where the celebratio...See More