Anyone have a strategy for getting a selective mute to communicate? I've tried picture cards and fantasy role play with no success...has anyone gotten their selective mute to speak? Thank!
I've had two. Both were teenagers and both were EL students (no, I'm not confusing an EL student's "silent period" with selective mutism; I'm an ELL teachers so I've seen that many times before but with these two it was very different: refusal to speak in any language at school, even native language, for more than two years, long after English comprehension and writing had gotten fairly good; speaking in other contexts such as at home but not at school). I agree with the advise that has been given by others. Trying to force the child to speak will make it worse. Find out what has been done in the past and who you can refer him to, but also be prepared to "wait it out".
One of my two would repeat words but would not say a single word at school although his sister said he "wouldn't shut up at home" and at home he used both English and his native language. At school he started speaking in a very quiet whisper after a couple of months if he had someone nearby who would model what to say, but all of his words at that point were repeated from someone else. This progressed to whispered oral reading and then a very few, whispered phrases ("yes," "no," "may I go to the bathroom?" "it's not mine," "please explain," and so on). In written work he was actually one of my better students, progressing in written English faster than most. Then one day after almost two years he suddenly started speaking, in the same good English he was using for written work by that point.
The other student was also with me for two years but was still not speaking when he left (he moved out of the area). He developed a very elaborate system of gestures (which was really quite creative and it was impressive how much he could communicate with it). He occasionally whispered a few words to go along with the gestures. Like the other student, his comprehension and writing were good by the end of the two years, but he still did not start speaking. In his case his gestures were so expressive that I think he had less motivation to start speaking - what he had been doing was working so well for him by that point!
For my two I believe that the fact that school took place in their second language was part (or all) of the cause of their selective mutism; I see it as the likely cause, but believe the same sort of situation can be caused by other fears or traumas as well. Your student's situation may be similar, even if there is no language issue involved. Other than seeking professional support for the student I recommend patience, finding ways to communicate even if they don't involve speech, allowing/encouraging whispers and repetition or "oral reading while still not yet using one's own words" as signs of progress when the student is ready. We treated all of these steps as normal, never making a big deal out of them but certainly making sure that any attempt at speech was accepted and got a reasonable (but not over-reactive) response. The students did make progress but it does take time.
5000-ish steps each day over the week-end. Lots happening: funeral for a friend's mother, morning Habitat meeting, DGS 7th birthday party. Star Wars theme; birthday parties these days are real events. What fun.
Today 9548. Close . . . under a bright sunny sky. Temps in the mid-20's. Very pleasant, especially for January.
Back at it...today, so far, 10,333 steps. Pt workout and two sessions on home treadmill. Back at DMs this afternoon. We have hair appts tomorrow. Hoping we do not get the snow predicted, tonight.
Looks like weekend was enjoyed by all, no postings! lol
Monday is my strength training using machines and dumbbells. I started off on the first two machines, but the third one was being taken up my a gentleman that was talking to three others. He just sat there! SO, I skipped that one and continued on to the rest of my circuit. He ended up on that machine the ENTIRE time I was working out. I finally was able to use it after I had completed my three sets of my circuit. I do not like confrontation over machines so I just waited. Funny thing is that he wanted to get back to that machine while I completed my three sets.
It is a beautiful, warm, sunny day. I completed my 2+ miles of cardio by just sticking to brisk walking.
On 1/25/17, tryangle357 wrote: ...See More Some questions to help understand the situation: what kind of special ed is it? Is it a self-contained class, a resource class or?? Were the teachers who left both from this class? Is there an assistant? How many kids are in this class? How many years experience do you have and how many with this age group?
On 1/25/17, tryangle357 wrote: > I am a special education teacher. I was recently transferred to > a new school. My new school had two teachers to quit in > December and really needed a sped teacher. The students have > been disrespectful, defiant, and non-compliant from the > beginning. Students walked into the classroom rearranging the > desks and using profanity. They totally disregarded the > teacher in the room. When I asked them for their attention, I > was met with confrontations. All they seem to want to do is get > on their cell phones, gossip, or get on the computer. I have > had a difficult time obtaining order and this is my seventh > day. These are high school students. Does anyone have any > suggestions that will help me to obtain order in this > classroom?
Just ...See MoreOk. I know I will likely be deleted. Going to get it out anyway.
I am so tired of going online (facebook, etc.) and feeling hated by EVERYONE.
I am very moderate in my beliefs. I can see pieces of truth in what is put out there from both sides. And I see bias, exaggeration, fear mongering put out by both sides also.
Just to take a few recent issues, why can't people see a reasonable middle ground?
Gun control: of course the constitution says we may bear arms. So we can't ban guns entirely. But, there is a line of reasonableness. It certainly doesn't mean we can each have our own nuclear bomb! So, can we keep the freedom to bear arms at the same time as having reasonable regulations and safeguards? I think so.
Abortion: yes, we need medical personal trained to do procedures. No woman should have to die to give birth to a child who is going to die anyway. Sometimes babies die in utero and the procedure is the same. But, at the same time - how can anyone deny that, if left alone, that this is a life? And, knowing that babies born at 22-23 regularly now not only survive but thrive, how can we justify an abortion rather than a delivery at that point? Isn't it possible to keep it legal, while have reasonable regulations in place to protect innocent lives that can't protect themselves?
Immigration: Every nation has regulations on entry, and we need to make reasonable laws and follow them. If the law is wrong, let's change it. But, having "sanctuary cities" where they are essentially announcing they are going to willfully break the law? I don't get it. Let's set the laws in such a way that they are reasonable, and then follow them.
To me, this is all a reasonable middle ground. But, instead I am left feeling like EVERYONE now hates me because I can't fully agree with either side.
Is the world as polarized as it feels to me? Or are there a lot of us in the middle feeling like we can't even speak at all?
I think it's up to all of us to do the best we can. At this point, I'm not sure that protesting, burning cars, and name calling are going to make things any easier. Does it ever?
On 1/29/17, I hear ya wrote: > I've been unfriended on Facebook and Twitter and frankly I > don't give a damn. Let 'em go. I keep my views to myself on > Facebook for the most part but when you "like" something or > comment on a public post, your friends can see and, instead > of talking to you about your views, how to came to them, > etc, they just unfriend. A few departed with snarky words, > then left. I don't worry about them. > > I'm a bit more vocal on Twitter where I don't have > neighbors or family members on my Twitter list. I tend to > post videos to what was actually said, quote from our own > government's websites, etc. People are going berserk, > saying all kinds of things about people whom they once > considered friends, I've seen two families blow up at each > other on Facebook and vow to never speak again--including > two sisters in their 60s! > > I see people saying they are "terrified" and are always > sobbing. I saw tons of signs at various protests and > marches with people holding signs saying they're > terrified...but they can stop being terrified and start > living any time they choose. I get the impression that many > feel they are more morally righteous than anyone else. > > The "Mus lim ban" that everyone is freaking out about is > not what the media is calling it but no one is paying > attention to that. It is sad that so many people > don't/can't think for themselves and go along with whatever > the media is telling them is the truth. Mr Obama did the > same thing for 6 months and where was the outrage? Where > was the outrage when Jimmy Carter banned the Ira nians for > a time? > > Here is what I saw on CBS a few minutes a go--I posted the > same thing from the Fox News site because it was the first > place I saw it but people called it "fake news" so I found > the same thing on CBS. > > [link removed]?
I think we all change and grow and are never the s...See MoreOn 1/29/17, Debbie wrote: > Change is always hard and many people are scared of the > "change" our country is currently in. Personally, our political > climate has been one particular way for so long, certain people > are having difficulty accepting this change. >
I think we all change and grow and are never the same as we were a year ago or 30 years ago. But, this administration is doing its best to further the divide.
> I think it's up to all of us to do the best we can. At this point, > I'm not sure that protesting, burning cars, and name calling are > going to make things any easier. Does it ever?
Protesting is part of the foundation of our country. I'll defend that right by participating. Marches since the inauguration have been amazingly peaceful and organized to minimize disruption. Just like every well planned classroom, there are no guarantees that all will behave.
-ltl
> > On 1/29/17, I hear ya wrote: >> I've been unfriended on Facebook and Twitter and frankly I >> don't give a damn. Let 'em go. I keep my views to myself on >> Facebook for the most part but when you "like" something or >> comment on a public post, your friends can see and, instead >> of talking to you about your views, how to came to them, >> etc, they just unfriend. A few departed with snarky words, >> then left. I don't worry about them. >> >> I'm a bit more vocal on Twitter where I don't have >> neighbors or family members on my Twitter list. I tend to >> post videos to what was actually said, quote from our own >> government's websites, etc. People are going berserk, >> saying all kinds of things about people whom they once >> considered friends, I've seen two families blow up at each >> other on Facebook and vow to never speak again--including >> two sisters in their 60s! >> >> I see people saying they are "terrified" and are always >> sobbing. I saw tons of signs at various protests and >> marches with people holding signs saying they're >> terrified...but they can stop being terrified and start >> living any time they choose. I get the impression that many >> feel they are more morally righteous than anyone else. >> >> The "Mus lim ban" that everyone is freaking out about is >> not what the media is calling it but no one is paying >> attention to that. It is sad that so many people >> don't/can't think for themselves and go along with whatever >> the media is telling them is the truth. Mr Obama did the >> same thing for 6 months and where was the outrage? Where >> was the outrage when Jimmy Carter banned the Ira nians for >> a time? >> >> Here is what I saw on CBS a few minutes a go--I posted the >> same thing from the Fox News site because it was the first >> place I saw it but people called it "fake news" so I found >> the same thing on CBS. >> >> [link removed]?
Jo Sorry about the weird formatting with the extra words. I'm not sure why it is happening. On 1/23/17, Jo wrote: > On 1/23/17, Craftylady wrote: >> we are located in a very rural area and no one does this >> for kids, a few people do it with adults at $35 a >> person. We don't have many places for parties, r...See More Sorry about the weird formatting with the extra words. I'm not sure why it is happening. On 1/23/17, Jo wrote: > On 1/23/17, Craftylady wrote: >> we are located in a very rural area and no one does this >> for kids, a few people do it with adults at $35 a >> person. We don't have many places for parties, really >> one or two...mostly everything is an hour or more away. > > But how many people, how long, what type of project, and > are supp supplies provided? > > The attention span of a 2nd grader is not that of an > adult. > > I can see a 3-4 hour art lesson with supplies provided > costing $35 dollar > $35 dollars per person, especially if the limit of adults > is capped to > capped to 10 or less, but when you are talking about 2 > dozen 2nd graders wi > graders with everything provided, I just think $15 per > person is a bit high > a bit high, especially since many of them are probably > all not interested > interested in what you will be teaching (no offense > intended), but the ad > but the adults who sign up for a lesson is invested at a > higher level. > > level. > > If you do want this to become an income generator for > you, you need to > need to make it affordable for the clients and worth your > time. I can ho > I can honestly say, if I was providing supplies and > parent aides, $360 dol > $360 dollars for a 2nd graders art lesson would be way > out of line sin > line since they aren't going to be able to attend for > more than an hour. > an hour. You will also have to have a several different > types of lessons > lessons so that your business won't be obsolete after a > very short pe > short period because it gets stale because of sameness. > > How do you plan to set up the lessons? Maybe if it was > small group > group over a few hours it MIGHT be justified, but asking > someone to pay > to pay $360 for an hour or $180 if you plan to stay 2 > hours and repeat > repeat the lessons in small groups is asking a bit much. > > $15 per child is generating a lot of income when you are > prov providing just knowledge to young children. $15 per > child when you > you are providing supplies is a different conversation. > > There is also nothing wrong with charging an hourly rate > (if they su > supply supplies) with a cap of the number of children and > a ov overage fee. > > One person in our area charged $10 per child for one hour > but supplied everything for the lesson. We are in a high > cost area.
On 1/22/17, Craftylady wrote: > A friend ...See MoreIs this your profession? Then I would give my "friend" a discount. If this is a hobby, I would charge only $100. What will the children paint? Is it very detailed or simple? I've been to a painting studio where I was charged only $25 (paint, paintbrush, easel, and canvas was included).
On 1/22/17, Craftylady wrote: > A friend wants me to lead a paint nite type activity for her > 2nd graders birthday. It would be 24 kids. She is paying > for all the supplies so I just show up and lead the paint > lesson. I told her I'd do it for $15 a kid... she asked if I'd > be willing to be paid hourly? If I do that what do you think > I should charge an hour? She did say some parents will > be there to assist.
The students immediately put me on to the situation when he didn't answer roll call the first day.
"William doesn't talk."
Not "can't" - just accept it.. Move on.
He never re...See More